bluesky123 Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 I have been dating a great girl for 2 1/2 years, I'm 24 and she is 23. She goes to school in my hometown but she leaves to spend the summer in her hometown. We have been doing this for the last two summers. One month ago She left for the summer, we planned as summers before to see each every two weeks. We were supposed to spend this weekend together. On Thursday night we talked she said she loved me and could not wait to see me (Friday). Friday morning she called said we are not happy together and does not love me anymore and left me. I'm shocked yes we had our tiffs but nothing big. The day she broke it off I sent a txt saying I love her and want to make things work. She replied let's see how things go. I think I still love you. I have lots of family support and haven't replied to the last msg she sent I dont want to be a crazy ex . What do I do I'm so lost without her:lmao:
wow123 Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 All you can do is wait and see. DO NOT CONTACT HER. Let her miss you and fear losing you forever. If u contact her again she will know that you are sitting around waiting for her.
Author bluesky123 Posted May 31, 2009 Author Posted May 31, 2009 It's so hard, I just keep on wondering what's she thinking, or doing. Is she crying or happy. I have said good night to her every night never missed a single goodnight for the last 2 1/2 years. All I'm left is with is nothing , I keep on checking my phone. Do you think is was rash of me to delete her off my FB ?
gypsi Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 hey bluesky sorry to hear about you situation, i deleted my ex from facebook 3 days after she left me she was really upset about it....so i added her again. I knew it was wrong to delete her it only made my situation worse she said i was immature and full of drama and so cut and dry. Fast forward 3 months later i delted her again after seeing pics of her with her previous ex and this time i wont be adding her back on. Give her time and DONT sms her or call her thats the biggest mistake!
loveshy Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 My advice to bluesky is do absolutely nothing... ABSOLUTELY NOTHING... If you have done something wrong... then don't do any reasoning... Just leave it and follow no contact.... Calling her will make things even worse.
Author bluesky123 Posted May 31, 2009 Author Posted May 31, 2009 I thank everyone for their replies. I have a exciting career ahead of me, I treated her like princess. Two weeks ago she was proclaiming how much she missed me and loved me . How can somebody just 360 ? The last thing I said to her on "Friday" was I love you and want to make things work. She replied I think i'll always love you, lets see how things go k? I never replied it's been 2 days. I wonder what she is doing ? I will not try to contact her. "If you love someone, let her go. If she comes back to you, she's yours. If she doesn't come back, she was never yours to begin with."
loveshy Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 It can take atmost 5 months for the person to realise... ( as far I have seen on this forum). You don't need to tell her you love her... anymore...
Trialbyfire Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 Hate to say it but I'm guessing she's met someone else, unless she's being hugely influenced by family and friends. It sounds like the former, to me, though. This kind of abrupt turnaround usually happens with a branch swinger. How much did you know about her past relationships? Did she leave another relationship for you? Historical patterning is important.
Author bluesky123 Posted May 31, 2009 Author Posted May 31, 2009 Before I met her she a few short term realtionships, She is a hard working girl, she leads a busy life. She has always been honest even when I questioned things, I think my insercurties drove her away. The day before she said she was excited to see me.
Trialbyfire Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 Before I met her she a few short term realtionships, She is a hard working girl, she leads a busy life. She has always been honest even when I questioned things, I think my insercurties drove her away. The day before she said she was excited to see me. Okay, let's take your rationale apart. From the time she said she was excited to see you, to when she broke up with you, what did you say that was insecure? Did you accuse her of cheating? What did you perceive yourself as doing "wrong"?
Author bluesky123 Posted May 31, 2009 Author Posted May 31, 2009 She is a lovely, positive girl. Like I said before she is very busy, we are fine when we are together but when she is away I was question. Ex. Her summer job requires her to spend a day with one person all day. I ask who is he age etc. Also when she is out I ask who is there etc. Recently I stated that I feel we are drifting apart and she replied no way. The day she broke up with me I asked her when she decided to leave me. She says as she was packing she felt butter fly's in her stomach. She does not party, she enjoys social gatherings in moderation. She does not lie and hates conflict. That is why I so shocked me it came from left field. She once said I inspired her with my work ethic drive etc. I have slacked off over the years, became less driven etc.
Trialbyfire Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 She is a lovely, positive girl. Like I said before she is very busy, we are fine when we are together but when she is away I was question. Ex. Her summer job requires her to spend a day with one person all day. I ask who is he age etc. Also when she is out I ask who is there etc. Recently I stated that I feel we are drifting apart and she replied no way. The day she broke up with me I asked her when she decided to leave me. She says as she was packing she felt butter fly's in her stomach. She does not party, she enjoys social gatherings in moderation. She does not lie and hates conflict. That is why I so shocked me it came from left field. She once said I inspired her with my work ethic drive etc. I have slacked off over the years, became less driven etc.So you're saying that you did nothing between the time that she said she was excited to see you and the time she broke up with you, that she actually made the decision previous to leaving for her hometown. If so, how can you say that you were fine when together? As for not lying, she already decided to break up when she left but continued to lead you. Sounds pretty disingenuous to me. Lying by omission is still lying. A decent person would have addressed issues with you directly and tried to work them out. Instead, she let things build up, then walked away. It's time to take off the rose-coloured glasses and see her for who she really is.
Author bluesky123 Posted May 31, 2009 Author Posted May 31, 2009 There was no real issue that I could see. She did say she is fed up with me always asking about where she is going who etc. So your saying before she left for the summer her mind was made up. She led me on for a month with all the phone calls, summer plans etc ? I have been very strong not communicating with. I thought she would call me and realize what has happend. All my firends and family are shocked I though she was the one.
Trialbyfire Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 The day she broke up with me I asked her when she decided to leave me. She says as she was packing she felt butter fly's in her stomach. There was no real issue that I could see. She did say she is fed up with me always asking about where she is going who etc. So your saying before she left for the summer her mind was made up. She led me on for a month with all the phone calls, summer plans etc ? I have been very strong not communicating with. I thought she would call me and realize what has happend. All my firends and family are shocked I though she was the one.No, I'm not saying this, she told you this, by your above words.
Author bluesky123 Posted May 31, 2009 Author Posted May 31, 2009 Sorry for the misunderstanding, this past friday she was to come and spend the weekend with me. I got a call in the am expecting her to say she leaving her house instead she left me. In other words as she was packing to see me for the weekend. Very strange the night before she said see you tomorrow and I love you. I really appreacite the time you have taken adressing the problem
Author bluesky123 Posted June 1, 2009 Author Posted June 1, 2009 It's been two days since I last talked to her. I have not heard a thing yet. A friend said her relationship status on FB is missing. I deleted her. The NC thing is killing me ! I though she would call me by now !
loveshy Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 One more thing... Dont talk with your friends about the relationship... Just tell it didn't worked out... Regards
Ariadne Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 I have been dating a great girl for 2 1/2 years, I'm 24 and she is 23. She goes to school in my hometown but she leaves to spend the summer in her hometown. We have been doing this for the last two summers. One month ago She left for the summer, we planned as summers before to see each every two weeks. We were supposed to spend this weekend together. On Thursday night we talked she said she loved me and could not wait to see me (Friday). Friday morning she called said we are not happy together and does not love me anymore and left me. I'm shocked yes we had our tiffs but nothing big. The day she broke it off I sent a txt saying I love her and want to make things work. She replied let's see how things go. I think I still love you. I have lots of family support and haven't replied to the last msg she sent I dont want to be a crazy ex . What do I do I'm so lost without her:lmao: Hi, It sounds like maybe she met someone that struck her attention. I wouldn't take it too seriously, seems like she still wants to stay in touch with you and is confused herself (by the sudden reaction). It happens, you are away, and situations like this can arise. Calm down and see what happens. Good luck.
Author bluesky123 Posted June 1, 2009 Author Posted June 1, 2009 It's day three of no contact, I went to sleep alright last night. This morning was tough. Something just doesn't feel right or add up. This girl was loyal and the sudden flip is confusing me !
Author bluesky123 Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 I have kept strong still not contacted my love, I guess it is really over. No commincation from since Friday. She has not contacted me.
Author bluesky123 Posted June 3, 2009 Author Posted June 3, 2009 It’s been three days since I last heard your voice. I feel, as though it’s a bad dream, how could this happen to us. My mind is racing, there are so many things I want to tell you but I can’t call you, I want to but can’t. I have good moments and bad moments. My love for you is so genuine. I miss the smell of your hair, your pretty hands your perfect smile with that little dimple. I have this reoccurring thought of the day we met, the first date we took the outfit you were wearing, gosh I can still smell the perfume you had on. I remember you holding my hand by ******. I miss the way you welcome me with your arms wide open your eyes closing every so slowly and the perfect kiss you’d give me. I miss the way you’d put things in perspective after a bad day. Sometimes it may feel as though I was unhappy, I just miss you so much. I want to grow old together like we dreamed about. I miss my best friend. As I write this I’m having a good moment, reminiscing about all the great memories we shared. I try to think of the bad times and they are none. We had our fights; it’s been always over something small. I don’t feel angry, I feel empty. The love of my life is gone I miss your voice. The nights are the hardest; I check my phone every night before bed. I miss holding your hand. What I miss is you; everything about you and that is tearing me into pieces. I could write pages upon pages of the things I love about you; the best way to describe is I love everything about you. Sweetheart I will respect your wishing because I love you so much. It still doesn’t make sense to me. I want to call you but have to resist. You are a strong woman and what scares me the most is that you made your decision, and when you make decisions you stick with them. That is why it makes it so real. I know your gone for good, but the I still have hope that I’ll get the chance to hold you in my arms tight. I love you with all my heart. I wrote this yesterday, I have not sent it to her. I thought she'd contact me by now. Should I send it or is it too soon for contact. Do you think she will call. How could someone just shut down cold turkey ?
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