sean22 Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 My ex is going overseas in about a week now and i was wondering if i should send her a goodbye text. Ive been NC for a month now and i still have feelings for her. i didnt go to her going away party cos i felt that i was best to just stay NC and avoid the unnessecary awkwardness. She hasnt made an effort to speak to me since the breakup and she probably doesnt even care about me anymore and i shouldnt either, but i feel like sending her a goodbye text when shes going overseas for 7 months or so is the right thing to do. She did leave me in the dark.. told me that she broke up with me because the relationship was putting too much 'pressure' on her with her going overseas and all and just wanted to be friends, then the next day told my best mate that she had lost feelings for me etc. Why couldnt she just be honest and tell me this instead of my mate. and so much for being friends.... she hasnt talked to me since! Sorry, i started to rant there a bit.. Anyways, can anyone help me out here? i just dont want look like a dick who doesnt say goodbye to someone whos going overseas but at the same time maintain NC i guess..
jerbear Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 No, do not send the goodbye text. The point of no contact is to not find excuses to break no contact.
mogul Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 how long have you guys been together? i think it says alot about how much each person has invested emotionally in to a relationship. if it was a long term relationship, for what its worth, i would give her a call.
Author sean22 Posted May 31, 2009 Author Posted May 31, 2009 yeeah i know but its not because i still have feelings for her or because i want to work things out or anything like that .. its just the person i am, and its just as though it was as if anyone else i knew was going away. Its like im not even acknowleding that shes gone.. hmm i dont know, i guess i just stay NC then
Soul Bear Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 Bro, if you want to txt her then txt her. She is going away for 7 months, its not like you will have a chance to break NC while she is away, its not like you will have to avoid her!! Dont ever have any regrets. In those 7 months you will become a stronger person, you wont be worried about bumping into her either. Lucky you! PS. words...do not listen to anything she said to anyone else. Take it with a pinch of salt. Listen bro, you do whatever you want to do. Whatever you think is best for your situation, listen to people on LS, but dont let them dictate to you what is best for YOU, as only you know that
vessv6l Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 She told your best mate that she didnt have feelings for you anymore? She would have known that would have got back to you. Send her a text if you want mate. You dont seem to be under any illusions. At least you took the mature approach to be civil
robinincarolina Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 I say text her. Just do what you think is right. You can be light and upbeat about it.
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