DJT Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 Hi I'm here in this forum and I am not familiar on the topics about spousal abuse. It's my cousin who has been married for 3 years now and his wife has hit him on 5 different occassions in total when arguing. It can range from slapping/smacking him, throwing him her sandals to making a fist close to his face. She is a yeller as well and gets angry when he wants to visit his parents more often. According to my cousin he told me this all started last year right after she lost their child during birth and has affected her since and is depressed for the main part. I'm the only one who he has tell this to and he is convince it's his fault for the main part since he should have been with her more during her pregnancy than working. I'm not sure if that's a fair reason of why a wife hits her husband? Can losing a child after giving birth make a woman like that?
TaraMaiden Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 There is absolutely no reason, justification or excuse, whatsoever, for any person to physically attack and hurt another person. Ever. Full stop. Man on man, man on woman, woman on woman, woman on man. if you are restraining somebody, and in doing so you have to use force, that is one thing. but to enact violence out of anger towards somebody, is entirely and completely unacceptable. She desperately needs help. Get your cousin to speak to his doctor, and get her to attend a well-woman clinical appointment with him, and go from there. She needs support. She is grieving and has to find some kind of clinical assistance. But what she is doing is completely wrong.
Author DJT Posted May 31, 2009 Author Posted May 31, 2009 She desperately needs help. She is grieving and has to find some kind of clinical assistance. Agreed with you. I know as terrible is it to lose your newborn child, you can't be taking it out on your partner. I'm gonna talk to him about it. The only problem is that he blames himself whenever she snaps at him. In his believe he finds himself responsible for the change in his wife.
mark982 Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 the woman needs to see a professional for her depression over losing the baby,my wife and i have a rule,i don't touch you,you don't touch me,as it should be.
sugarmomma Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 No one deserves to be abused. He should insist that she gets some counseling to deal with her rage before one of them gets seriously hurt. He also needs to learn how to set boundaries with her. Maybe they should get couples counseling also.
Trialbyfire Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 Weird. This is the second thread in 24 hours, where the woman abused her SO, by throwing sandals at him, as well as striking him. Physical abuse between partners, is never acceptable. Can your cousin not stop her by restraining her, with the understanding that if she does it again, he's going to the police? For that matter, why is he with a Jerry Springer style woman?
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