nothappyjan Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 Went on a first date last sat with a guy, met for drinks at a nice place, found out on the date that he was moving into my street just about 8 houses down the next weekend. I really liked him on the date, he was hot, normal, funny and i found it odd he was single....met him on a dating site He msged later after the date to say nice to meet you and I had a nice time. I replied back thanks, it was nice meeting you too it was a good night. He msged again on mon and he texted back and forth, no mention of catching up again and same on wed. Then yesterday he moved in to the new house near me and texted me on sat night while I was out with my friends and said "Keen to catch up again" and I said yep sure and his reply was if your bored on the weekend come by my house for a look..... Today i messaged that I'm not feeling the best this weekend (have a cold) but maybe i could call in for a chat during the week after work, if ur around during the week. He replied i'm around most days? so i said maybe thursday, text me later to let me know. Sorry about all the information, also I am 23 he is 25. I just feel like he isnt that into me cause he didnt actually plan a second date or set a day/time i had to keep chasing it up, he's all up in the air about everything and i'm worried that he might get the wrong idea or think of me as just a botty type call if i agree to go over. (i am not the type of girl to sleep with anyone until we are in a r/ship and exclusive for awhile) so do u think it will give the wrong impression to just call in and 'hang out' with him in his new bachelor pad (he just moved out from his parents house) or am i being too up-tight, but i am looking for a relationship and not fun!
nowhereman82 Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 Inviting someone over before several dates is a booty call or they lack imagination in doing anything outside their comfort zone (their home). But to stick to public meetings and feel him out more. That is unless you don't mind turning him down or you are interested in some heavy petting at least.
Author nothappyjan Posted May 31, 2009 Author Posted May 31, 2009 Inviting someone over before several dates is a booty call or they lack imagination in doing anything outside their comfort zone (their home). But to stick to public meetings and feel him out more. That is unless you don't mind turning him down or you are interested in some heavy petting at least. thanks for the advice, it just sucks cause I actually really liked this guy and i never meet guys I am into, its always the guys into me and i dont like them......funny enough the ones I feel no chemistry with are perfect gentleman and the one i want to be the gentleman is not
nowhereman82 Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 Whys that suck? Just suggest an alternative and be honest as to why you are not comfortable coming over to his house yet. Failure to communicate openly and honestly from the get go is setup for failure.
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