Brady_to_Moss Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 I am taking her out to eat and then coming back to my house to watch a movie..i have known her for about a year now and asked her out the other night...we txt alot and i also call her sometimes on the phone and we talk for a few. I dont want to blow this as i think shes a really cool girl. How much should i flirt or have physical contact with her...hug at end of the date or a kiss? Is it to early to hold her hand? Sorry for all the questions..its been a while since i have been on a first date.
BobSacamento Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 Damn dude, if you have her coming back to your place I'd go guns a blazing lol. Or perhaps she doesn't think it's date? Either way I'd get pretty comfortable with her on that sofa by the end of the night.
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted May 31, 2009 Author Posted May 31, 2009 Damn dude, if you have her coming back to your place I'd go guns a blazing lol. Or perhaps she doesn't think it's date? Either way I'd get pretty comfortable with her on that sofa by the end of the night. She knows its a date and not just a booty call...i dont do the one night stand things...she has said many times to me she is looking for a nice guy to treat her right and when i asked her out i said i am the type of guy shes looking for and she seemed excited to be going out with me
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 I agree with Bob - get comfy on the couch with her.
MineThatBird Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 You know that when you take somebody out to eat, they will judge your every move. Not only do you worry over venue, you'll need to watch your table manners and find interesting things to talk about for the duration of the period. What will you do if the conversation falls flat? Silence is not golden, it's awkward and it'll be difficult to recover. Taking a candidate out for dinner is not recommended because it's not easy, light and non-committal. Simply put, it's not fun and like that song says: girls just want to have fun. Women bond through communication/ verbally; take the information you've learned about her and use it to propel your time together forward. Do what you will and have fun with it. Try not to overthink it so much.
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 You know that when you take somebody out to eat, they will judge your every move. Not only do you worry over venue, you'll need to watch your table manners and find interesting things to talk about for the duration of the period. What will you do if the conversation falls flat? Silence is not golden, it's awkward and it'll be difficult to recover. Taking a candidate out for dinner is not recommended because it's not easy, light and non-committal. Simply put, it's not fun and like that song says: girls just want to have fun. Women bond through communication/ verbally; take the information you've learned about her and use it to propel your time together forward. Do what you will and have fun with it. Try not to overthink it so much. Wow. I've never sat and judged a guy while we're eating. Can't say I've judged his table manners, either. LOL I love going out to eat. It gives me, as a woman, a chance to do what "we" love best - communicate verbally. Nothing wrong with going out to eat.
lora22 Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 Wow. I've never sat and judged a guy while we're eating. Can't say I've judged his table manners, either. LOL I love going out to eat. It gives me, as a woman, a chance to do what "we" love best - communicate verbally. Nothing wrong with going out to eat. Totally, I LOOOOOVE going out to eat! This is me and food: and this is me with a guy that takes me out for food: :love::love: Not gonna lie though, I totally judge manners. Not super picky, but the guys gotta have good manners (in general).
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 Totally, I LOOOOOVE going out to eat! This is me and food: and this is me with a guy that takes me out for food: :love::love: Not gonna lie though, I totally judge manners. Not super picky, but the guys gotta have good manners (in general). Well - basic decency, yes - I totally get that. But I imagine the same guy that would talk with his mouth totally full of food (showing me every juicy bite in there) and picking his nose at the table would show poor manners pretty much anywhere. But if he uses the wrong fork or forgets to put the napkin on his lap, I don't think he's some kind of neanderthal.
lora22 Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 Well - basic decency, yes - I totally get that. But I imagine the same guy that would talk with his mouth totally full of food (showing me every juicy bite in there) and picking his nose at the table would show poor manners pretty much anywhere. But if he uses the wrong fork or forgets to put the napkin on his lap, I don't think he's some kind of neanderthal. So true! My current biggest turn off though is texting at dinner! I once went on a date with this guy (he was totally amazing, so much fun, I was so excited to go out with him) who actually PUT HIS CELL PHONE OPEN, on the table, and left it there for the entire night so that he could respond to his friends' texts! When I commented on it, he was like "Oh, sorry" and started doing it under the table!
lora22 Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 And to answer the OP's question - YES! Flirt! Hold her hand (but not the entire night - but like, crossing the street, in front of the restaurant, from your car to your house...stuff like that)! If after cuddling up on the couch you still haven't made a move, def. give her a kiss at the end of the night if you're feeling it!
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted May 31, 2009 Author Posted May 31, 2009 And to answer the OP's question - YES! Flirt! Hold her hand (but not the entire night - but like, crossing the street, in front of the restaurant, from your car to your house...stuff like that)! If after cuddling up on the couch you still haven't made a move, def. give her a kiss at the end of the night if you're feeling it! So kissing and holding hands are good for a first date? I always thought that you have to wait a few until you try stuff like that...but i will deff try the holding of hands and the kiss then. Any other flirting tips i should know of? Playfully touching good....she just got a new ring that i know of...so holding her hand to look at it is a good way to physically flirt?
lora22 Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 Playfully touching good....she just got a new ring that i know of...so holding her hand to look at it is a good way to physically flirt? Definitely! I mean, the kiss thing depends on your dynamic with her. But a goodnight kiss is usually fine. Like I said, it depends on your dynamic with her, but I have a friend who's not into casual hook ups either, and she was recently dating this guy who waited like 5 dates to try ANYTHING and she hated it and was like, what the hell is up? Does he like me or not? I wouldn't physically flirt too much, cuz you dno't want to skeeve her out, but the hand holding, ring thing, letting your hand brush her arm, stuff like that is great.
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