wow123 Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 My ex who dumped me continued to call for weeks after the breakup. I would ask her if she was calling to work things out, she said no, I then said it would be better for me if we didn't speak anymore. The random phone calls continued up until recently when I finally stopped answering and calling back. If she knows I am not a good fit for her and doesn't want to work things out why did she keep calling?
Taucher Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 I cant answer this I am sorry. I just want to say that I am in exactly the same situation. My gf dumped me a week ago and has contacted me every day since. I am guessing that you didnt do anything really bad to cause the break up, such as cheat on her or anything like that. I think it could be guilt and I would guess that she cares for you a lot.
Author wow123 Posted May 30, 2009 Author Posted May 30, 2009 Nope. No cheating or lying. She just decided she wasn't happy and I wasn't right for her. She's very young which could be part of the problem.
hoping2heal Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 No, if she cared a lot for you, she wouldn't call you knowing it's going to hurt you. My guess is she calls for an ego boost. Knowing she doesn't want to work things out, and that it's only going to further hurt, torment and cause you pain but calling anyways is NOT caring for you, it's caring for herself, her own ego which I'm sure is in some form fragile or a bit bruised after the break up. Stick to your guns and ignore her.
Author wow123 Posted May 31, 2009 Author Posted May 31, 2009 Thanks for the advice. I guess I knew the answer before I asked. If she wanted more than that she would leave a voicemail saying that she really needs to talk to me and knows she made a mistake. A few missed calls...I consider that almost no effort which speaks volumes.
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