mogul Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 (sorry of semi long post, responses would be much appreciated) I was out with a bunch of friends clubbing last night. In the club, there was quite a cute girl with her 2 female friends. She had that look and i just needed to get to know her. (i am well aware that sounds very cliche). There were plenty of guys trying to chat her up and creepers trying to grind on her. I walked over, smiled at her and just took her hand while she was dancing with a less than par guy. She quickly scooted over to me and danced. I joked if it was ok since she looked like she was having so much fun with her fan club (sarcasm). She laughed, we danced briefly, maybe 2 minutes at most. We talked, danced, she was smiling, seemed like she had a good time. Her two friends were just there dancing, seemingly uncomfortable as there were so many guys around them. I would of had my friends dance with them other than the fact a few of them were females and others had their own thing going at our booth. We got the names down, our jobs, where we're from and other little nice things down as we talked and she was asking questions as well. Out of the blue, she said she was here with her girlfriends for the night, apologized and said she had to keep them company. I told her it was nice to meet her and walked away. They then proceed to go dance on stage away from alot of people, just them 3 dancing in a group. I do my thing for the remainder of the night. As the club was closing, i leave with friends and we hang out in the front of club deciding where to eat. I guess her and her friends were leaving as well, and she noticed me or what not as i was talking with friends. She brushed her hand against my shoulder and smiled as said have a good night (and my name). I didn't realize it was her until it was too late and she was half way down the block. -My questions are, what could/should i of done. I am super confused as *dont mean to sound big headed, but i don't usually get rejected when i approach a girl when all the signs are there*. Also, *again not to sound big headed* but i was perhaps one of the better looking guys in there that seemed to have everything together and going for me. I don't get how she would not continue our convo to the point where i could of easily asked for her number. Her saying "im with my girlfriends" tonight after a good mini convo with interest from her caught me super off guard. -Also,the fact she remember my name 2-3 hours later outside of the club and made contact with me mean anything? Do yall usually remember peoples name who you talk to in a club cause i usually forget. What could i of done, and for the ladies, what would you of wanted done or she was just being nice? Thanks...
lora22 Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 This probably won't help you, and this is probably going to make me sound like a wasted mess, but: I go to bars and lounges, not clubs (I started going when I was 16, I'm now 25, and I can count on one hand the number of times friends have managed to drag me to a club), so I'm not really sure what the dynamic is at clubs. From reading these posts it seems like people actually go there to hook up? For my friends and myself, *if* we want to meet guys, we'll go to a yuppie bar where you can actually hear people talk. That said, we almost never want to meet guys - we're about meeting new people (not hooking up or anything), and hanging out with our friends, having a good time. So if we wanna meet guys it's because someone got dumped and she wants to get hit on to boost her self-esteem. We're also usually fairly drunk, and we still usually pregame before we go out. Therefore...we tend to give guys we meet nicknames, and unless that nickname includes part of his real name, we generally do not remember names. So I think it's a good sign that she liked you that she remembered yours - but like I said, that's within the context of we go out to drink, not dance. The fact that she went up to you after last call (or whatever you call it in a club) is a reaaallly good sign. If a particular person was bugging us, and we see him after last call, we do not make it a point to talk to him, and if he came up to us, we'd blow him off before he got a chance to ask for numbers, or find out where we were going for after hours...so I'd say she wasn't just being nice. Since she didn't wait for a reply from you, not sure what that means. She might've been feeling shy cuz you didn't respond right away? But if I went up to you at last call, I'd hope you asked for my number.
Author mogul Posted May 31, 2009 Author Posted May 31, 2009 Yeah, im still kicking myself for not realizing it was her and not asking for her number. The thing that tripped me out was how she said "she was with her girlfriend" as we were having such a good time. She seemed completely sober, as i remember her saying she was the dd.
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 Ack. Yes - should've asked for her number. CLASSIC move, Mogul - pulling her away from the skeezes. That was awesome! She may have used the GF line just because she was trying to keep you guessing. Gotta have a little mystery.
lora22 Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 The thing that tripped me out was how she said "she was with her girlfriend" as we were having such a good time. Dude, when I go out with my friends, we're out with each other, not meeting guys. Maybe one of her friends just got dumped or something ya know, and they agreed beforehand that they were trying to cheer her up or something!
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