paddington bear Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 Just curious. Is it ever a good idea for a woman to seduce a man? I don't mean chase after him, I don't mean invite out on a date, I mean to actually entice him into bed, I mean to be a femme fatal type without that fatal or bunny boiling part Any guys out there been seduced by a woman? Did you ever want to see her again, or because she seduced you did you see it as just a one night thing? Is there a difference in the result if a woman seduces someone she barely knows or someone that she's known for years? Or does it all end in 'thanks very much' and no one sees and/or sleeps with each other again. I was told a story of a guy on a date, not sure which number date it was. And he went to the bathroom. When he came back, his date had disappeared. He searched the apartment for her and found her naked lying on the bed waiting for him. He made his excuses and fled and the girl apparently was mortified and couldn't understand when she was offering sex on a plate that he didn't take her up on it. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 While this is a consistent male fantasy with being seduced by some random chick in a no-strings situation, you'll find that in reality, man-eaters scare most men away. Link to post Share on other sites
mogul Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 My ex would put me in situations like that in the past and i loved it. Then again, she was my gf at time and it made out relationship much more interesting. I also have been in situations like that with women i have been on less than 2-3 dates with. If it is not implied that the relationship is going somewhere, i typically scoot them over to the fwb category. Link to post Share on other sites
sumdude Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 As long as I'm attracted to a woman and not in a committed relationship she can seduce away and I'll be all over it! As far as how a man might view the potential of a relationship from it there's no way to tell really. Link to post Share on other sites
BlueEyedGirl Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 I think that this is better than telling a long term friend how you feel. Even just going in for a kiss/make out session. It will show him clearly if there is any real chemistry that he has been overlooking. However, if you get rejected it is going to hurt a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 It can work. I seduced a man I barely knew (he had just moved into the flat next door to me) but I felt an instant attraction. It was another 24 hours before he finally left my bed . We were together 3 years. Link to post Share on other sites
Kaybear Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 Well, about your friend I think he was scared. Yet, that just sounds like the woman was giving it up so easy in my opinion. Seducing men is enjoyable in fantasies, I admit. Hell, it's just as attractive as being seduced the other way. But I wouldn't do it unless I was in a commited relationship and only to my partner. I'm not a wam-bam-thank-you-sam, kinda girl. I think most women these days aren't. I'd like to think that, but I understand sex is sex. Some want no strings, some do. Whatever works for you! Just remember to be safe. =) -Kaybear Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 No offense intended to anyone who's done this with random men v. within an exclusive relationship, but, the song "Barracuda" has been playing through my head, since opening this thread! Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 I have always felt more in tune with this song Link to post Share on other sites
Habeas Corpse Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 Just curious. Is it ever a good idea for a woman to seduce a man? I don't mean chase after him, I don't mean invite out on a date, I mean to actually entice him into bed, I mean to be a femme fatal type without that fatal or bunny boiling part Any guys out there been seduced by a woman? Did you ever want to see her again, or because she seduced you did you see it as just a one night thing? Is there a difference in the result if a woman seduces someone she barely knows or someone that she's known for years? Or does it all end in 'thanks very much' and no one sees and/or sleeps with each other again. I was told a story of a guy on a date, not sure which number date it was. And he went to the bathroom. When he came back, his date had disappeared. He searched the apartment for her and found her naked lying on the bed waiting for him. He made his excuses and fled and the girl apparently was mortified and couldn't understand when she was offering sex on a plate that he didn't take her up on it. Of course it can backfire. If a woman tries to seduce a man she doesn't know --no strings attached-- the man will naturally think she wants something more. Money, maybe planning to steal his car, something sinister. Obviously such deviant behavior is bound to raise red flags. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 Of course it can backfire. If a woman tries to seduce a man she doesn't know --no strings attached-- the man will naturally think she wants something more. Money, maybe planning to steal his car, something sinister. Obviously such deviant behavior is bound to raise red flags.Deviant behaviour? Don't you think that's a little extreme? Not all women or men act in exactly the same manner when it comes to sexuality or pretty much anything. Link to post Share on other sites
Author paddington bear Posted May 31, 2009 Author Share Posted May 31, 2009 Deviant behaviour! Lol! Honestly. There are many many things that I would consider deviant...seducing a man is certainly not one of them. Anyway, interesting responses guys. Surprised that anne ended up in a relationship out of doing this. And I think Blueeyedgirl is right that actions speak louder than words in terms of a long time friend, but yeah getting rejected by long time friend you try to seduce...ouch. It'd be nice to think of myself as some seductress that could get any man, and keep them afterwards, unfortunately though, I damn well care too much, and would suddenly change from seductress to 'waaaaah, why hasn't he called?' thus changing the whole dynamic! Link to post Share on other sites
stepka Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 I was told a story of a guy on a date, not sure which number date it was. And he went to the bathroom. When he came back, his date had disappeared. He searched the apartment for her and found her naked lying on the bed waiting for him. He made his excuses and fled and the girl apparently was mortified and couldn't understand when she was offering sex on a plate that he didn't take her up on it. I think the lesson here is that it's not a recommended seduction method. Finesse is everything in seduction, and this screams amateur. I had a friend in a similar situation once--she was a lesbian and she had a friend who wanted to try it, so she did the same thing--hopped in my friend's bed naked. As my friend put it later, "I probably would have gone for it if I'd known, but this was just too weird. I mean, what do you do with that?" And how would a woman take it if a man did the same thing? Everyone knows that a good seduction begins and ends with kissing. And when it's all over, it shouldn't be too obvious who seduced whom. Link to post Share on other sites
Gold Pile Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 The 1st two times women tried to aggressively seduce me I was intimidated and practically ran away. I was younger then, once I was "older" and ready for anything, it just doesn't seem to happen too often. That could be because a wiser GP was detecting positive signs early on and initiated the overt seduction myself. It's definitely OK for women to do the seducing, but I'll bet she tried subtle clues 1st and the guy was too thick to pick-up on it. Or he just doesn't want her. God help any man who doesn't respond to a woman's advances!, she will hate your guts. On those rare occasions that eligible women (not married, sickly, over weight...etc) have tried to blatantly seduce (not to be confused with flirting) me ...... I've learned to at the least get into some heavy kissing...for some reason it only happens when I can't stay. I have a very important appointment, another hot date waiting, or I've just been with another lady and it's too early to perform again. Kissing her means I didn't reject her and then I express my lust for her and make plans to get together soon. Sadly, it often comes from women I don't want. If she keeps herself fit, clean and is a nice person...my rejection is a polite fib. "I'm loyal to another" or "my nuts were blown off in the war". If she doesn't keep herself fit...my rejection is rude or just a silent running away. Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 my rejection is a polite fib. "I'm loyal to another" or "my nuts were blown off in the war". :lmao::lmao::lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 Just curious. Is it ever a good idea for a woman to seduce a man? I don't mean chase after him, I don't mean invite out on a date, I mean to actually entice him into bed, I mean to be a femme fatal type without that fatal or bunny boiling part Any guys out there been seduced by a woman? Did you ever want to see her again, or because she seduced you did you see it as just a one night thing? Is there a difference in the result if a woman seduces someone she barely knows or someone that she's known for years? Or does it all end in 'thanks very much' and no one sees and/or sleeps with each other again. I was told a story of a guy on a date, not sure which number date it was. And he went to the bathroom. When he came back, his date had disappeared. He searched the apartment for her and found her naked lying on the bed waiting for him. He made his excuses and fled and the girl apparently was mortified and couldn't understand when she was offering sex on a plate that he didn't take her up on it. As another poster pointed out, women are often loaded with ulterior motives. That is the reason why men would make excuses and fly. Quick ONS happen more randomly, rather than a pre-meditated seduction. In relationships, I don't see anything wrong with the woman seducing the guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 Just curious. Is it ever a good idea for a woman to seduce a man? I don't mean chase after him, I don't mean invite out on a date, I mean to actually entice him into bed, I mean to be a femme fatal type I've done this a few times and they usually just fall in love. I don't care to do that anymore. The reason why I think it's not a good idea, is that it won't turn into true love. Just some sex. And it's easy to spot a guy who is ready to be seduced. Your friend pretty much sucked at it, that's why it happened. You need to have a sense of timing and know when to attack. Link to post Share on other sites
Author paddington bear Posted May 31, 2009 Author Share Posted May 31, 2009 Ariadne, if you've done it a few times and they usually fall in love, how does that translate into that it won't turn into love, just sex? Do you mean, won't turn into love for you, but that the other person usually falls for you? I agree with the friend sucking at seduction. I would like to imagine that I would be far more subtle than taking my clothes off and lying on a bed naked. I have actually seduced a couple of guys now that I come to think of it, but it was always a one night scenario for me. One of them wanted the one night scenario, after sleeping with him, of course I wanted more. The other wanted to date me afterwards and I didn't want to see him any more. Sometimes I think a guy who is too shy or overthinks too much would maybe at least one time be happy for the woman to take control so that his insecurities don't get a chance to surface - meaning the scenario where both parties are waiting for the other to make a move and yet neither does it, afraid that the other one will reject them. But then...you can never be sure whether that's from their insecurities or if they just don't find you attractive thus risking rejection and embarrassment. Link to post Share on other sites
colosseum Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 Not to harp on women, but I personally would be scared if I didn't knew the girl because she might turn out to be a crazy and diseased psycho who will sue me afterwards. I'm not saying that happens often, and it probably doesn't but who knows?! Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 Ariadne, if you've done it a few times and they usually fall in love, how does that translate into that it won't turn into love, just sex? Do you mean, won't turn into love for you, but that the other person usually falls for you? Guys are suckers for this type of thing. They can become obsessed even. But I've never fallen in love with them, neither they felt true love for me but infatuation or desire. Link to post Share on other sites
Author paddington bear Posted May 31, 2009 Author Share Posted May 31, 2009 Not to harp on women, but I personally would be scared if I didn't knew the girl because she might turn out to be a crazy and diseased psycho who will sue me afterwards. I'm not saying that happens often, and it probably doesn't but who knows?! Yeah well, watch The Last Seduction...one woman through seducing one guy totally ruins him, would put you off for life!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author paddington bear Posted May 31, 2009 Author Share Posted May 31, 2009 Guys are suckers for this type of thing. They can become obsessed even. But I've never fallen in love with them, neither they felt true love for me but infatuation or desire. Do you reckon you never fell in love with them, because you made the first sexual move and so therefore never felt that they really wanted you from the offset, so therefore any obsession on their part afterwards was seen by you in a different light than if a man had seduced and pursued you? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 Seduction should be something fun, exciting and intimate. Once you tag on expectations of repayment, like expecting a relationship, it ruins the entire impact of doing it. Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 Do you reckon you never fell in love with them, because you made the first sexual move and so therefore never felt that they really wanted you from the offset, so therefore any obsession on their part afterwards was seen by you in a different light than if a man had seduced and pursued you? No. Because with sex you can play a guy like a puppet. Link to post Share on other sites
Author paddington bear Posted May 31, 2009 Author Share Posted May 31, 2009 Seduction should be something fun, exciting and intimate. Once you tag on expectations of repayment, like expecting a relationship, it ruins the entire impact of doing it. Agreed, but nonetheless was curious as if the results always resulted in what one would expect. Link to post Share on other sites
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