thinkingalot Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 I know I want my ex back but the timing is not right due to she is moving away in September and we are at different places right now. We are perfect together and for each other. I want to talk to her about having more of a friends with benefits relationship right now and see what happens? I think however she is "over me for right now because she is moving away and doesnt want to commit again" Just looking for some advice on what I should/ shouldn't do tomorrow? I am going to start by saying "what are you thinking?" When she left on Friday ,to go visit a "friend" I said we need to talk about what is going on she gave me a big smile and said YES, I know her responses and this was a good one apposed to the last time I wanted to "talk" she was less receptive. She is sending me so many mixed signals I am so confused and don't know what to do! A short back story of our relationship in posted here a couple down under CRAZY SITUATION, read that so you know a little more. Thanks for the help
stillafool Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 I know I want my ex back but the timing is not right due to she is moving away in September and we are at different places right now. We are perfect together and for each other. I want to talk to her about having more of a friends with benefits relationship right now and see what happens? I think however she is "over me for right now because she is moving away and doesnt want to commit again" Just looking for some advice on what I should/ shouldn't do tomorrow? I am going to start by saying "what are you thinking?" When she left on Friday ,to go visit a "friend" I said we need to talk about what is going on she gave me a big smile and said YES, I know her responses and this was a good one apposed to the last time I wanted to "talk" she was less receptive. She is sending me so many mixed signals I am so confused and don't know what to do! A short back story of our relationship in posted here a couple down under CRAZY SITUATION, read that so you know a little more. Thanks for the help Please don't tell her that's what you want. Tell her you want to be exclusive with her and that you love her and want to get back together. That's what we women want to hear, not can we be friends and still f--k!
Ronni_W Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 I said we need to talk about what is going on she gave me a big smile and said YES, I know her responses It's not rocket science that a big smile and "yes" are positive responses -- but it would be a horrible mistake to think that she was responding in the affirmative to the indecent proposal that you intend to "talk about". If FWB is all you are able or willing to give to her, I do hope that you will find some compassion and spare her from it. I'd bet dollars to donuts that she was NOT thinking "FWB" when she gifted you with her "big smile and YES". PLEASE...be kind to her, if you can at all manage it
Author thinkingalot Posted May 30, 2009 Author Posted May 30, 2009 Thanks for the responses but please read the back story (crazy situation, in this forum). I would love to start our relationship tomorrow all over again, but since she is moving it is impossible. I think I will be "lucky" to get FWB because I do think she has "moved on" from me due to her moving away and does not want to get closer but other messages she sends has me thinking otherwise. Somewhat flirting on somedays and other days nothing. Slight touches and laughing and sometimes a cold shoulder, I don't know what to read into anymore. We are "friends" now but it is hard to be friends with her like other girlfriends because of our history together. I do overthink things way to much and it tears my head and heart apart.
Baby Gorilla Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 She is moving away in September and you are at different places right now. The End. Work on yourself, do something to improve your life. You either take the advice now, or you take it in a few months, or a few years. But the sooner you make a conscious decision that your life doesn't depend on another person, the sooner you'll be happy.
samspade Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 Reject her offer for friendship, tell her it was nice knowing her and you wish her well. Do NOT tell her that you want to get back together with her. It won't work. She is moving on and moving away, and has already demonstrated that she doesn't want to be exclusive. And don't tell her you want to be her FB. That's pathetic; it communicates, "I will settle for sex scraps from you, if we can't be exclusive any more." It will also offend her. While women are perfectly fine with being friends with benefits in the right situation, your proposition will make her feel cheap. The only thing you can do that preserves your dignity and helps you is to say goodbye and carry on with your life.
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