SilverLining Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 I don't know why I put myself through this. I was just thinking that after dating for over 5 years, waiting for him to dump me at least once a year, finding out that he was trying to cheat on me with a coworker, being engaged, him breaking the engagement off, then letting him use me for sex for a year while he tries to date other girls...I don't want to be with the guy anymore. He's no good for me. But then I stood outside and asked him if he had an answer for me, if he wanted to work things out between us, and he said no. And all of the things I had thought, all of those reasons to not be together just flew out of my head and I cried. Why do I let this a**hole in? I told him I can't talk to him again. I hope that this time I can be strong enough to go NC. He told me that he couldn't take me being insecure about our relationship. Well excuse me, but you weren't exactly trustworthy...and dumping me all the time doesn't exactly make me feel like we have a strong relationship...who would be secure with all of that? And the thing is, it's my fault. No one but me kept me there. I wasted 6 years on this person and I'm so upset that I wasn't stronger. From now on, if someone dumps me then it's completely over, forever. No going back. I would have saved myself 5 and a half years if I would have just refused to get back together with him in the beginning of our relationship. I feel really hurt, but I also feel relieved. Now maybe I can finally move on.
robinincarolina Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 Take this time and decide what you will and will not accept and tolerate from a man and a relationship. Set your bondaries and go forward and stick to them. You can't change the past, but you can change your future. Embrace it. It can be exiting once you accept it. You will have a lot of mixed up emothions, but be strong. Post on here if you need to and get it out, but don't contact him again. Have you read dating without Drama. Great book.
lovemadly Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 i understand your frustration completely ; i went back to my ex for 3 years & beat myself over the pain & time i could have held instead of wasting more energy with him, but as long as you learn from it is all that matters ; that's the best way i'm trying to look at it...hopefully in time, better relationships will come...i'm still healing...
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