cyril's fan Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 I've always caught guys looking at me on the streets. I know many threads have been posted about how a smile should be a good way to show interest. But I'm not sure whether the guys just look because they're just wired to or a smile from me would have led to anything on their part. Sometimes I just look back, without doing anything. That's because I get the sense that they're just looking since it seemed like a blank look. When they look and smile, I return a smile. And then we just carry on with our lives. Guys, would you really talk to a girl you see on the streets if you look and she smiles at you? Or are you just looking and aren't likely to do anything even if she smiles? Is there any definite thing a girl can do to make you go up to her and start a conversation?
Mahatma Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 I sure hope a smile is not all guys need to approach. Girls will stop smiling soon. A smile is just better than a blank stare. If you smiled at me multiple times, I would probably approach you. I smile at just about everyone who makes eye contact with me if I am having a good day.
Author cyril's fan Posted May 31, 2009 Author Posted May 31, 2009 I sure hope a smile is not all guys need to approach. Girls will stop smiling soon. A smile is just better than a blank stare. If you smiled at me multiple times, I would probably approach you. I smile at just about everyone who makes eye contact with me if I am having a good day. If it was just a smile from someone you've only met once, it wouldn't make you make a move? Any other comments from others to my question? Thanks.
mogul Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 I would approach if it was a series of smiles, or eye contact and her acknowledging my intentions and seem game. A smile followed by a subtle nod would usually make it a bit less nerve wracking for a guy to approach as it subdues his fears of rejection dramatically. (or thats just my personal preference)
Bejita463 Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 Guys' date=' would you really talk to a girl you see on the streets if you look and she smiles at you? Or are you just looking and aren't likely to do anything even if she smiles? Is there any definite thing a girl can do to make you go up to her and start a conversation?[/quote'] If you want to be absolutely certain contact is initiated, there is nothing stopping you from making an approach except you. Having said that, my experience is that a smile does not necessarily mean that a person has any real interest in conversing. I am much more likely to initiate contact with someone smiling (either gender) than someone not though.
colosseum Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 Guys, would you really talk to a girl you see on the streets if you look and she smiles at you? The setting of the streets is difficult because usually people are going somewhere, have places to be, things to do. So unless you can pull off an amazing approach, it's difficult. However, this very thing did happen--eye contact, smiles, and I approached while walking. She was gorgeous and was incredibly welcoming by stopping to talk and all. Of course my approach sucked so it was miserable, but it can happen. Or are you just looking and aren't likely to do anything even if she smiles? Usually I'm thinking; "Damn did she smile at me? I should've said something. But what? It would've been awkward anyways. **** it. I have stuff to do." So we want to do something usually, but just don't get around to it (on the streets anyway). Is there any definite thing a girl can do to make you go up to her and start a conversation? Say "Hi" to us to break the ice and alleviate the pressure? I am much more likely to initiate contact with someone smiling (either gender) than someone not though. True.
Author cyril's fan Posted June 1, 2009 Author Posted June 1, 2009 So there's really no foolproof way to know a guy is definitely interested when he looks at you on the streets and no fail-safe way to make sure he comes over and initiates a conversation. I wish we didn't live in a world where everyone is scared of everyone. I like a world where people smile at each other and better if a smile leads to something wonderful.
BobSacamento Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 In the end it's better to smile then not to smile. The blank stare for me always seems to make me think - "What's that person pissed off about?" Happy people are generally more attractive to me. It almost signals no baggage.
Author cyril's fan Posted June 1, 2009 Author Posted June 1, 2009 In the end it's better to smile then not to smile. The blank stare for me always seems to make me think - "What's that person pissed off about?" Happy people are generally more attractive to me. It almost signals no baggage. Sometimes I think my look is one of "what's that guy staring at me for?" before I realized it. So if you got a smile, would you have gone up to them and chatted?
Bejita463 Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 So if you got a smile' date=' would you have gone up to them and chatted?[/quote'] It is more likely than if you aren't smiling.
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