Gold Pile Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 Last year they opened a bookstore in town, it's part of a big chain. The parking lot is always full. For over a decade I've been getting my books on-line. The early days were mail order books and the library. So I haven't done the bookstore scene. So what is the dating game like there? Presumably I'd meet half way intelligent women there and that's always a good thing. I'm assuming it would be a slightly mature group as kids don't have the money to spend and lean toward the library and campus book sources. I'll guess that the cookbook section is to be avoided so as to escape overweight people. Probably the fitness book aisle would yield a better selection. Of course that's pure speculation. How do you go about it? Do you linger in certain sections (adult, fitness, etc) or follow would-be dates to whatever section they choose? Any helpful tips are appreciated.
neowulf Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 Given that I can think of a dozen different reasons off the top of my head why someone would be in a book store, I'm not sure you can use what section they're in as any kind of reliable guide. ("Oh, I'm just shopping for a friends birthday" etc). So, the same old "read the body language" stuff applies. 1) Look for a girl you'd like to approach 2) Try to make eye contact with her and see if she responds 3) Failing that, attempt to make conversation.. Really picking up women appears to be all about mastering the art of talking with complete strangers without freaking them out
OpenBook Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 I've been hit on in libraries. (Same scenario as a bookstore - rows and rows of books, people standing there browsing, picking, thumbing through a book.) It's a slow-paced environment, so match your moves to that. To give you a rundown of how it usually works... The hunter (guy) saunters casually into the row where the prey (girl) is standing, reading a book. The hunter does NOT try to get the prey's attention right away. He's just as intently focused on looking for a book as the prey is. He gradually moves closer to the prey, in a stop-start pattern, always acting like he's looking for a particular book. Then when he gets about 4-5 feet away (close enough to threaten to invade her personal space), he says something to her about the books in the row they're in, like "they sure have a lot of kudzu cookbooks here, don't they?" It comes across as a way to reassure her that he's not some pervert trying to get too close; he's there (just like her) trying to find a book, and she happens to be standing in the spot where he's looking for it. Normally, the prey will look up and respond politely, an acknowledgment of a fellow human being in the same pursuit of knowledge. When she glances up at him, his eyes widen a little, like he's just now noticing how beautiful she is, and asks or says something else to her (a short sentence, nothing longer than that!), with increasing enthusiasm and a little nervousness, like he's in awe at this wondrous new discovery he's found - and gives her a big sheepish grin at the end of his sentence. (This all happens in a split second, nothing dramatic... but that's the message that comes across.) If she responds positively, you're in like Flint! Good luck GP, and may The Force be with you.
Author Gold Pile Posted May 30, 2009 Author Posted May 30, 2009 Normally, the prey will look up and respond politely, an acknowledgment of a fellow human being in the same pursuit of knowledge. When she glances up at him, his eyes widen a little, like he's just now noticing how beautiful she is, and asks or says something else to her (a short sentence, nothing longer than that!), with increasing enthusiasm and a little nervousness, like he's in awe at this wondrous new discovery he's found - and gives her a big sheepish grin at the end of his sentence. (This all happens in a split second, nothing dramatic... but that's the message that comes across.)Wow!, you sure can write, ever consider writing porn or romance? You've given me the courage to give it a shot.
Bells Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 Last year they opened a bookstore in town, it's part of a big chain. The parking lot is always full. For over a decade I've been getting my books on-line. The early days were mail order books and the library. So I haven't done the bookstore scene. So what is the dating game like there? Presumably I'd meet half way intelligent women there and that's always a good thing. I'm assuming it would be a slightly mature group as kids don't have the money to spend and lean toward the library and campus book sources. I'll guess that the cookbook section is to be avoided so as to escape overweight people. Probably the fitness book aisle would yield a better selection. Of course that's pure speculation. How do you go about it? Do you linger in certain sections (adult, fitness, etc) or follow would-be dates to whatever section they choose? Any helpful tips are appreciated. Depends on your location...I live in Suburbia...and women in bookstores have boyfriends in the next isle..... It's a small town, and women are snatched up by the HS Boyfriend they've dated through high school and INTO adulthood. Sometimes when you approach them, doesn't matter...they are thinking, "Why is this person I don't' even know, talking to me?" Where I live, if people don't know you, they really don't want to be approached in a bookstore. In a major Metro area...it might be different. People here just aren't fond to talking to strangers
tkgirl Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 I've been hit on in libraries. (Same scenario as a bookstore - rows and rows of books, people standing there browsing, picking, thumbing through a book.) It's a slow-paced environment, so match your moves to that. To give you a rundown of how it usually works... The hunter (guy) saunters casually into the row where the prey (girl) is standing, reading a book. The hunter does NOT try to get the prey's attention right away. He's just as intently focused on looking for a book as the prey is. He gradually moves closer to the prey, in a stop-start pattern, always acting like he's looking for a particular book. Then when he gets about 4-5 feet away (close enough to threaten to invade her personal space), he says something to her about the books in the row they're in, like "they sure have a lot of kudzu cookbooks here, don't they?" It comes across as a way to reassure her that he's not some pervert trying to get too close; he's there (just like her) trying to find a book, and she happens to be standing in the spot where he's looking for it. Normally, the prey will look up and respond politely, an acknowledgment of a fellow human being in the same pursuit of knowledge. When she glances up at him, his eyes widen a little, like he's just now noticing how beautiful she is, and asks or says something else to her (a short sentence, nothing longer than that!), with increasing enthusiasm and a little nervousness, like he's in awe at this wondrous new discovery he's found - and gives her a big sheepish grin at the end of his sentence. (This all happens in a split second, nothing dramatic... but that's the message that comes across.) If she responds positively, you're in like Flint! Good luck GP, and may The Force be with you. wow... I feel so stupid! I love going to book stores... the mellow scene, checking out all the great books and music... I never realized that it was getting "checked-out" there too! Now when I think about, there was this guy the last time I was there that I felt looking at me... then he came up and asked me where the "fitness" section was. I figured he thought I worked there or something... after I pointed it out to him, he gave me a big smile and walked away. He was cute too! I'm clueless...
OpenBook Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 wow... I feel so stupid! I love going to book stores... the mellow scene, checking out all the great books and music... I never realized that it was getting "checked-out" there too! Now when I think about, there was this guy the last time I was there that I felt looking at me... then he came up and asked me where the "fitness" section was. I figured he thought I worked there or something... after I pointed it out to him, he gave me a big smile and walked away. He was cute too! I'm clueless... Yup, it happens more often than we realize. My advice to women would be to make sure you're looking FINE whenever you go to a library or bookstore!! :bunny: Wow!, you sure can write, ever consider writing porn or romance? :laugh: Thanks GP! Who knows, maybe one day it'll be MY book you're pulling off the shelf as you're checking out tkgirl in the aisle!!
Bells Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 Yup, it happens more often than we realize. My advice to women would be to make sure you're looking FINE whenever you go to a library or bookstore!! :bunny: :laugh: Thanks GP! Who knows, maybe one day it'll be MY book you're pulling off the shelf as you're checking out tkgirl in the aisle!! Meh, no girl dresses fine at a bookstore...I mean they're cute ...but they have a baggy t-shirt and jeans on (the shirt typically goes over their butt, so you can't see it)
Art_Critic Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 GP.. you might be able to find a woman ripe for the picking over in the relationship/self help aisle. or in the home improvement/craft section you might just find a woman who fits your date budget... Stay away from anybody in the travel section.. too much money for that date. I have never met anybody in a bookstore but in the areas where they have all the seating for reading and the coffee shop that has always looked like a good place to meet someone..
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 The magazine stand and the cafe are the two hot spots in my store.
tkgirl Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 GP.. you might be able to find a woman ripe for the picking over in the relationship/self help aisle. or in the home improvement/craft section you might just find a woman who fits your date budget... Stay away from anybody in the travel section.. too much money for that date. I have never met anybody in a bookstore but in the areas where they have all the seating for reading and the coffee shop that has always looked like a good place to meet someone.. too funny!!! I wonder what that guy was thinking when he asked me where the "fitness" books were... like I'm in such great shape that I must read a lot of books on fitness.... or that he thinks I need to!
alphamale Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 i've spent a bit of time in bookstores and never seen anyone try to pick anyone else up, at least not in front of me.
mammax3 Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 Me neither, alphamale, although I always wish to meet a man in the bookstore/library. I love books. A man who reads is sexy! Your post, OpenBook was awesome. It inspires me to get dressed up when I go to the library and be very intent while looking at the books
AllInOne Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 I have tried meeting women at my local bookstore. I never got a phone number or date, but I found it really easy to strike up a conversation. It's quite and people aren't moving too fast and there are all the books to be used as conversation fodder.
westernxer Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 In the bookstores I frequent close to home, every chick I've come across who seemed to have potential has always had a boyfriend browsing another section of the store, out of my line of sight. It seems that most of those guys don't even like bookstores, or reading for that matter. They'd rather play video games. LOL
Bells Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 In the bookstores I frequent close to home, every chick I've come across who seemed to have potential has always had a boyfriend browsing another section of the store, out of my line of sight. Exactly, esp in my area. I had a friend that in the Cafe Court, saw this woman sitting by herself eating, he was assuming she had a boyfriend that she was just waiting on...but a certain amount of time passed, and he said, "Meh, screw it, I'll go over and talk to her" Next thing you know...the man shows up right at that moment! LOL In my area, if you see any girl, ESP. a HOT chick by herself, you have to automatically assume the boyfriend is in the same vicinity. And it can be proven embarrassing when you're mackin on her, and she shows up while you're mackin' on his woman.
OpenBook Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 In my area, if you see any girl, ESP. a HOT chick by herself, you have to automatically assume the boyfriend is in the same vicinity. And it can be proven embarrassing when you're mackin on her, and she shows up while you're mackin' on his woman. I believe Gold Pile has experienced the "business end" of this shotgun situation, many times over. I look forward to his next Date Story with great anticipation. :D
Cherished Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 Well, thin people eat, and cook, so that's dumb to say that about the cookbook section. At least you would be getting a woman who enjoys cooking!
D-Lish Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 Last year they opened a bookstore in town, it's part of a big chain. The parking lot is always full. For over a decade I've been getting my books on-line. The early days were mail order books and the library. So I haven't done the bookstore scene. So what is the dating game like there? Presumably I'd meet half way intelligent women there and that's always a good thing. I'm assuming it would be a slightly mature group as kids don't have the money to spend and lean toward the library and campus book sources. I'll guess that the cookbook section is to be avoided so as to escape overweight people. Probably the fitness book aisle would yield a better selection. Of course that's pure speculation. How do you go about it? Do you linger in certain sections (adult, fitness, etc) or follow would-be dates to whatever section they choose? Any helpful tips are appreciated. Listen GoldPile... You want a tip? Creep the "teen fiction" section. Stay away from the "self help" section. If you wanted drama- you'd go to the "drama" section, right? Trust me, I wouldn't steer you wrong!
Author Gold Pile Posted May 31, 2009 Author Posted May 31, 2009 I believe Gold Pile has experienced the "business end" of this shotgun situation, many times over. I look forward to his next Date Story with great anticipation. :D I'm somewhat convinced the bookstore dating scene would be uneventful....not the kind of thing worth reporting here. Something like 6 failed trys and 1 winner. But I am learning from you all. :lmao:ART and his ways to economize, watching out for her BF, etc. Monday I'll scope out the store parking lot @ various times of day and evening. Maybe I should get to know the cashier......he/she could put me on to "regulars" there.
missdependant Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 You have it all wrong... the overweight people will be in the fitness aisle, because they're trying to lose weight. The people in the cookbook aisle will be there, because they prefer to eat healthy instead of fast food or crap that isn't good for you.
SushiX Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 I'll guess that the cookbook section is to be avoided so as to escape overweight people. LMAO:laugh:
Author Gold Pile Posted June 1, 2009 Author Posted June 1, 2009 You have it all wrong... the overweight people will be in the fitness aisle, because they're trying to lose weight. The people in the cookbook aisle will be there, because they prefer to eat healthy instead of fast food or crap that isn't good for you. That makes sense....I'll see how it goes. I'm scoping the place out today.
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