mint_tea Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 Hi all, it's been a while! In November, I dated a guy at college. He was an initiate in my co-ed fraternity. We'll call him Steve. We spent every day and night together for a week - we didn't do the deed though. We had fun together, laughed a lot - everything was going great. Then one night we went to a party with some friends. My ex boyfriend, who had been harrassing me (calling/texting me, trying to locate me, mysteriously showing up to places I went) even though he was the dumper, showed up at this party. I barracaded myself in a room as I was extremely uncomfortable. The guy I was seeing came in after a few minutes and asked if I wanted to leave. As we were leaving my ex started freaking out and getting in my face, saying he just wanted 5 minutes with me. Then he tried to introduce himself to Steve. We promptly left. The next day, Steve said that we shouldn't see each other anymore. His reasons were that I was laid back and he was more competitive...looking back, I think I was also trying to rush into things too quickly and scared him off. Ever since then, Steve occasionally IM's me on AIM. I left the co-ed fraternity at the beginning of the Spring semester and Steve is the only person in the frat who still talks to me. Lately he's been IM'ing me more frequently, about 4-5 times a week. Then two days ago, I got a text from him inviting me to a party tomorrow (Saturday). He also invited me to his birthday party in two weeks. Is he putting steps in motion to try things again or just being a friend? Saturday will be the first time I've seen him since November when things ended. I really liked him but don't want to get my hopes up..
tigerstripes Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 maybe. it's not really clear. but if you do want to have any chance of something happening you had better take it really slow and let him pursue you. consider yourself unattached until it is clear from him that you are in a relationship, and keep dating around.
Author mint_tea Posted May 31, 2009 Author Posted May 31, 2009 Well, i went to the party. He gave a cordial hug when i got there with my friend and then *completely* ignored me. No eye contact, no conversation. He said, "feel free to mingle" and disappeared. Other people went out of their way to talk to me, but not him. My friend and I left after an hour.
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