hijack Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 I'm really confused and upset and finally just decided to join this forum and ask for some advice! Bear with me, this ended up getting to be a pretty long tread. So I found out a few months ago that my gf was cheating on me and we decided to break up. It was kind of a mutual thing but we both agreed to be friends, still hang out etc. So we did that for 2-3 weeks and everything was going great! There was a period after the 2-3 weeks then that we weren't hanging out and just texting. Then finally one day I was chatting with her on facebook and she flipped out on me and said I'm annoying and she doesn't want to talk to me among a bunch of other hurtful things. I was very upset because everything was going well and I thought everything was perfect and then all of a sudden she said she doesn't want to talk to me. I did what she said and didn't talk to her for the most part except a few times when I was hurt and sent her a few sappy messages. One to which we said "stop having a pity party". Ok so now it's been like a month and I was completely not hurt and just must have been emotionally ignoring it all but now I am really sad and I really miss her. I have no idea what she's trying to pull and how I should act towards her. The odd thing is that it seemed like she had moved on to another guy or something (I still don't know for sure) on her FB, but then all of a sudden the pics of him and everything are gone. The other interesting thing is she keeps posting statuses on her FB that seem to be relating to me or something: Ex. "He ain’t feeling anything... My love, my hurt, or the sting of this rain. I’m living in a hurricane..." (lyrics from a song) I'm wondering if this is targeted at me or if there really was another guy. Which would be weird because if there was another guy it was only for like a week or so. She has been posting statuses like this on FB for a while now even before the guy (though I still don't know if there ever was another guy). I talked to a friend and she said that my ex could just be upset about cheating on me or something. OR she is just completely over me, however that wouldn't explain the things she's posting on her facebook. Also at one point she told me that she wasn't feeling the relationship physically anymore. So maybe she just is completely over me then. I just hate to believe that though based on the things she posts on her FB and a few other things. People I have showed agree that it's kind of weird. I'm thinking the best thing is to just leave her alone for a bit. I am meeting up with her in a few days to give some stuff back to her so maybe I will mention something then. I just want to sit down and have a mature talk and figure out how she's feeling!!!!!!! Sorry about being so Facebook oriented, but that's the only way I can contact her or see what she's posting (not to be a creep). ALSO I thank you if you took the time to read this.
tigerstripes Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 Who the F cares what she's doing or who she's dating or how she's feeling? She sure doesn't care about what you're up to or how you're feeling. It sounds harsh, but its true. Stop stalking her on facebook and start figuring out how to move on. Figure out why you wanted to keep a relationship going with someone who betrayed you. Cause if anyone cheated on me and I found out they'd be out the door so fast their head would spin. Figure out why you don't think you deserve someone who won't cheat on you and try to manipulate you. I know you are probably saying, I DO think I deserve someone great, but you don't. Start doing some soul searching and leave this chick in your past.
Author hijack Posted May 29, 2009 Author Posted May 29, 2009 Thanks. Ha you are absolutely right. That's why I broke up with her in the first place. I was willing to make an exception now just because I did miss her, and if she missed me (which it almost seems like) I would possibly give it a shot and start over. Or at least to be on friend or speaking terms. It was only kissing a guy and that's it. However the way she's treating me now you are 100% right I shouldn't wait around for her bull****. I'll just try to forget about it and move on. If there comes a day that she does end up wanting to talk to me, i'll either be completely over her or I can figure out how I feel then. You're right, I shouldn't care and I definitely should not be trying to sway her in either direction. If she misses me she misses me, if she doesn't she doesn't. THANKS.
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