genuinegirl Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 I broke up with my boyfriend about two months ago (we'd only been dating a few months, but he's a really great guy, very honest and true to himself and sweet as anything). i adored him, but physically, i couldn't get into it, no matter how hard i tried, and i felt like i was lying to him and to myself whenever we touched or kissed. he didn't feel this way and he didn't know i did. so, in an attempt to do the right thing, i broke up with him, told him the truth, and told him that i still care about him very much. being the great guy he is, he said of course we'd remain friends, but probably we wouldn't be able to do so right away. a month passes, and i thought about him every day. i cried SO much over that month. i missed him and felt attracted to him much more so than before, and decided to give it another shot. we hadn't spoken in that month (in an attempt to give him space, plus it made me very upset to even think about him), so i sent him a letter. after a week, he replied saying that though he appreciated my letter, he didn't think we could get back together (of course, because i DID hurt him, so why should he trust me now?) the thing is, after another month, i still can't bear to be without him! we go to the same high school, same grade, even have mutual friends and so i see him every single day. we're still not talking, because in my letter i promised that if he said no to getting back together, i'd give him space this time. i miss him so much, and i don't know what to do. of course i've talked to my friends about it, who say i should give him space and wait (some don't think it would be a good idea to get back together b/c they think i don't really care about him, which is false). i'm afraid if i wait too long, he'll completely lose interest, or even start dating someone else (even the thought of that makes me feel physically ill it's so upsetting). Any advice? I know he shouldn't trust me right now, but what can i do or say to prove to him that i really miss him and convince him to give it a second shot (keep in mind that we're not talking right now)? i don't want him to feel like i'm badgering him incessantly or i'm desperate (even though i secretly may be, shh!) Any help would be greatly appreciated! Thanks everyone.
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