Mike86 Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 Hi, I'm 22 years old, 6'3'', 265lbs, and pretty much built like a defensive lineman. I have a full head of hair, clear skin, nothing noticeably wrong with me. I do what I can to improve myself such as, brushing my teeth, wearing deoderant, keeping my clothes clean, etc. For some reason I can't get girls to talk to me. I feel like I intimidate them or creep them out. It's really frustrating to see a hot girl with a guy I could easily turn into a pretzel but where would that get me? I've read in a book by Arnold Swartznegar where he mentions that some women are put off by muscular men. It's not like I take steriods or workout everyday of my life. I'm just genetically a big guy. So do women now days prefer smaller guys? My voice is kind of mono-toned so when I try to tell jokes they come off a little flat or worse yet people take me seriously. Also I have interests in anime, video games, and writing fanfiction, all of which not many girls seem to be interested in. Maybe it's more of a personality issue which sucks because I can't fix that.
Island Girl Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 From almost the beginning of time there have been different types of men and women. You are going through a time where for whatever reason you are running into girls that are taken or not interested. It happens. Even if you look at threads that have been posted here the women chime in and not all are attracted to the same type of guy. I love them big and muscular. And there are girls out there your age that do too. The gym is a really good place to meet women who are interested in muscles - of course they are into fitness as well. But if you need some toning up - hey! you're at a gym! When it comes to people to date it is usually feast or famine. Right now you are having a major famine. Right around the corner there just may be a feast. I wish you well in your quest for love.
ruggy Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 Hi, I'm 22 years old, 6'3'', 265lbs, and pretty much built like a defensive lineman. I have a full head of hair, clear skin, nothing noticeably wrong with me. I do what I can to improve myself such as, brushing my teeth, wearing deoderant, keeping my clothes clean, etc. For some reason I can't get girls to talk to me. I feel like I intimidate them or creep them out. It's really frustrating to see a hot girl with a guy I could easily turn into a pretzel but where would that get me? I've read in a book by Arnold Swartznegar where he mentions that some women are put off by muscular men. It's not like I take steriods or workout everyday of my life. I'm just genetically a big guy. So do women now days prefer smaller guys? My voice is kind of mono-toned so when I try to tell jokes they come off a little flat or worse yet people take me seriously. Also I have interests in anime, video games, and writing fanfiction, all of which not many girls seem to be interested in. Maybe it's more of a personality issue which sucks because I can't fix that. I hear ya bro. The Y generation seems to tend to strive for better and better. Let's say a woman got someone like Brad Pitt, but think they could get a dude like George Clooney, they would still take the chance and shoot for Clooney. Its just how it is. I'd say, just walk it off. If they say no or not interested, don't sweat it. Say your loss and move on. Also try to ALWAYS have a positive and fun loving attitude. Any negativity can be counted against you BIG TIME. They can sniff that crap out. You WILL find a woman who likes YOU for YOU. However, have you ever asked any of your team mates to help hook you up with a woman?
tinklebell Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 If it helps, I like big guys. I still live in the Tarzan and Jane period. LOL.
carhill Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 Well, OP, as one of the Gubernator's constituents, I'd say Arnold did OK. The key is he was focused on his life and his goals and used his genetics to get him there. Think of all the goofy and cheesy movies he did. Oiling up for Mr. Universe. Throwing his hat in the ring when seemingly everyone wanted Gray Davis out of Sacramento. Marrying into one of the most powerful political families, of the opposite party no less. Do you see a pattern? Live life on your own terms and the right woman for you will take notice. She may already be noticing; you're just not yet aware of it
Author Mike86 Posted May 29, 2009 Author Posted May 29, 2009 Thanks guys, this has actually been a bit of a moral booster.
Chinook Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 Actually, if I were 22... I wouldn't mind all that (I'm not I'm 39). I like tall, well built guys. As already posted, you're just meeting the girls at the moment where they aren't interested. Don't worry you'll also have periods where you have more interest than you can handle too
robinincarolina Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 I think bigger men are sexy. Skinny men do nothing for me, but hey I am 46. One of my best friends is a guy and he is 6 foot 6 and 365 pounds. I find him wonderful and if I were not taken, yes I would go out with him. His hugs are awesome, although sometimes he picks at me and when he pushes on me at all he almost knocks me down. lol.
playlislay Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 Personally, I love a bulky man but Im not really into defined muscles as 1) they make me feel insecure, not good enough etc. 2) some muscles (and the veins-yuk!) put me off, like that indent around the hips that make you look like a ken doll.......not for me Im afraid. In some way I see it as a sign of.....being big-headed? Like a pretty boy? Obviosly I dont know your physique, just throwing out my opinion. Just remember that everyone has different tastes. Some men like BIG girls, some men like petite girls. Each to their own.
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 There's somebody for everybody out there. Your body type sounds like one of my good friend's preferred choice. Sounds like her DH, actually. But you are precisely the kind of guy she would go for when she was single. It is possible that your presence can be intimidating. I don't know how to fix that. I'm just going to guess that there will just have to be that "click" and the universe will align.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 Lately I have been getting to know this guy who has a similar body type to you -- 5'11" and probably 215, and appears to be rock solid. He commented yesterday that he needs to lose a little weight, and I immediately said, "Don't do it! You've got this earthy, muscle-bound body, and it's sexy." And I totally meant it. I would consider going out with this guy, but he's only 24 (to my 32), so I'm not sure I see that turning into anything serious.
BobSacamento Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 I used to be a bigger dude like you. I didn't look fat, like no beer belly but I was just really wide. I was 5'11" and 220 but my stomach never hung over my belt or anything. However, I never really had confidence in the way I looked. Now that I'm down to like 170 I have confidence and I think that helps me with the ladies. I have no problem talking to women now because the majority of them are fatter than I am. I know I sound terrible but it's true.
Confusedalways Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 I am your age, and what you described is exactly the kind of guy I generally go for, at least physically speaking. good luck!
tigerstripes Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 I don't think it has anything to do with your looks. If I were you I would definitely work on voice inflections, meaning, learn how to not be monotone. It's not as hard as you would think. There are a lot of different ways to find communications coaches or courses. I think it will be helpful to you in both your personal and professional life. It will also help you to gain confidence. I really think this is a large part of your crux. As far as it being a "personality" problem, I don't think that's true either. You described interests, not personality. Try to find other things to talk about besides things that the girl might not be interested in, ie. video games, anime, etc. Ask her questions when the conversation hits a lull. Ask about her family or education or favorite foods or hobbies or any of a million different things you'd want to know about someone. I think if you do those two things, and practice talking to girls you'll be feeling a lot better about your dating situation.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 Hi, I'm 22 years old, 6'3'', 265lbs, and pretty much built like a defensive lineman. I have a full head of hair, clear skin, nothing noticeably wrong with me. I do what I can to improve myself such as, brushing my teeth, wearing deoderant, keeping my clothes clean, etc. For some reason I can't get girls to talk to me. I feel like I intimidate them or creep them out. It's really frustrating to see a hot girl with a guy I could easily turn into a pretzel but where would that get me? I've read in a book by Arnold Swartznegar where he mentions that some women are put off by muscular men. It's not like I take steriods or workout everyday of my life. I'm just genetically a big guy. So do women now days prefer smaller guys? My voice is kind of mono-toned so when I try to tell jokes they come off a little flat or worse yet people take me seriously. Also I have interests in anime, video games, and writing fanfiction, all of which not many girls seem to be interested in. Maybe it's more of a personality issue which sucks because I can't fix that. You sound cute I like a man with a bit of a frame behind him and a little strength. Theres nothing wrong with you! ya just haven't found the right girl who's looking for you its hard but be pashent...
Star Gazer Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 Brushing your teeth, wearing deodorant, and making sure your clothes are clean isn't exactly "improving yourself." Those should be considered mandatory.
Bells Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 I hear ya bro. The Y generation seems to tend to strive for better and better. Let's say a woman got someone like Brad Pitt, Actually, using Brad Pitt as a comparison of what women want is old news. LOL David Beckham is the NEW comparison now. ;-)
mammax3 Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 I like big guys. Mind you, it's not the only requirement. Like some of the posters have indicated, there are women your age and in your area who like bigger guys too. You will find them/they will find you. And I like stargazer's comment that wearing deoderant and stuff is considered mandatory , but I imagine that's part of the dry humour you were referring to?
Trialbyfire Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 Mike86, what do YOU bring to the table? What do you expect that the target of your affections, bring to the table? Match the two and decide if they're equal.
AlektraClementine Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 My dude is 6'2 275 lbs. There is nothing more in this world I love, than to feel all of that man around me when I'm falling asleep. Hugs from him are an experience. I'm constantly finding myself in awe of him physically. Or rather how I feel when I look at him. Did I always go after guys like this? No. But there has never been a man in my life who treated me better. Who I could laugh endlessly with. Who always calls when he says he will. And who I could see fathering my children. Sorry for the gushy post, but just wanted to answer your question. Yes, there is love for the big guys. Emphatically, yes.
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