xpaperxcutx Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 Wow I feel like you're accusing me of telling you to go metro. Which I'm not, but it is something to think about.... Aww I'm just pulling your chains. I think you're just not ready for dating. Most college girls are materialistic, and the ones that aren't are either the socially awkward, or looking for bigger fishes to fry. If you're looking for ONS, just put yourself in a situation where the girls drink themselves silly. The ones looking for serious relationships aren't willing to devote themselves to musicians and pimps. They're looking someone who exudes confidence and partially well off without the worries of paying back student loans and such.
Mahatma Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 I don't really think non-famous bands get the girls. However, girls that you would pick up are not ones I think you really want to date. You don't want a groupie, unless you also want an STD.
Author aotc Posted May 30, 2009 Author Posted May 30, 2009 Wow I feel like you're accusing me of telling you to go metro. Which I'm not, but it is something to think about.... Aww I'm just pulling your chains. I think you're just not ready for dating. Most college girls are materialistic, and the ones that aren't are either the socially awkward, or looking for bigger fishes to fry. If you're looking for ONS, just put yourself in a situation where the girls drink themselves silly. The ones looking for serious relationships aren't willing to devote themselves to musicians and pimps. They're looking someone who exudes confidence and partially well off without the worries of paying back student loans and such. Sigh. I'm sorry, I've just been under a lot of pressure lately, particularly from my family. My dad got laid off a few months ago and has been drinking again. He's been pressuring me to pay my share of my schooling and is really strict with me and money. I'm doing what I can to get away from him and have been trying to find things that might make me happy to balance out all the disorder going on, but that just ended up causing more pressure, with girls and all. That's why I say I just want to get laid, just to get a little break, ya know? This probably isn't the time for me to be with a girl with all that's going on, but I still have desires. And hell, having someone in my life who I can escape to for comfort would be nice.
xpaperxcutx Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 Sigh. I'm sorry, I've just been under a lot of pressure lately, particularly from my family. My dad got laid off a few months ago and has been drinking again. He's been pressuring me to pay my share of my schooling and is really strict with me and money. I'm doing what I can to get away from him and have been trying to find things that might make me happy to balance out all the disorder going on, but that just ended up causing more pressure, with girls and all. That's why I say I just want to get laid, just to get a little break, ya know? This probably isn't the time for me to be with a girl with all that's going on, but I still have desires. And hell, having someone in my life who I can escape to for comfort would be nice. So you would use a girl merely to satisfy yourself? Don't do that, karma will bite you in the ass. If anything, I understand what it's like to have a parent get laid off. When my mom had that happened to her a while back, she started getting really angry at home, and it put a damper on everyone. Trust me, things will get better. Just don't use girls like that. They will come to resent you. If you want a relationship then find one. But not because you're bored and need an escape. There are other things for that.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 Where the hell was I being critical? As someone who plays music regularly, I was pointing out what I thought might be the problem. And I wasn't just talking about what I posted, I was talking about the advice others in this thread have given. Damn, Sally, don't get your panties in a twist. Maybe that's why you can't get a girl: you're more sensitive than they are. Oh hushhhh tanbark you know you are the root of all evil... LOL jk
tanbark813 Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 Oh hushhhh tanbark you know you are the root of all evil... LOL jk I may be a part but the root? You flatter me.
Author aotc Posted May 30, 2009 Author Posted May 30, 2009 So you would use a girl merely to satisfy yourself? Don't do that, karma will bite you in the ass. If anything, I understand what it's like to have a parent get laid off. When my mom had that happened to her a while back, she started getting really angry at home, and it put a damper on everyone. Trust me, things will get better. Just don't use girls like that. They will come to resent you. If you want a relationship then find one. But not because you're bored and need an escape. There are other things for that. Last time I checked I don't really have an opportunity to *use* a girl. With my last sentence that you bolded, I didn't mean a go-to girl or a booty call, but instead a girlfriend. The only girls that I would use are the ones that want to get used, and by used I mean just unattached sex. I meant that I wish I had a girl I could trust and wouldn't feel lonely around. Since my home life has gone to hell I've been alone without anyone to really talk to. I would take getting laid, but I never said I wouldn't like a better girl who will stick around. It's just no girl ever sticks around, let alone gets close.
sumdude Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 As someone who has been where you are but about 20 years ago.. I was late bloomer. Being on stage and a musician is an extra piece of interest to a woman. You're probably attracting more women than you know initially but aren't understanding the cues. You have to learn more about male-female interaction, flirting and signals of interest. Once you learn how to tell when a woman is interested then you have to act on it. Self image, self confidence and self esteem are everything. Do a little studying on the subject of body language and sexual cues.. seriously. You're probably walking around so frustrated that you're giving off some pretty off putting body language. Also enjoy your life whether there's woman in it or not because relationships come and go and being into yourself and into life is all you can do. Take it from a guy who took longer to learn than most.. Wasn't until my late 20's early 30's .. then a divorce.. but life sure is good now though!
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kizik Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 The reason you don't get women is that you're worried about getting women. I suggest masturbating more. I'm serious. Clear the poison out and get your head on straight, and try not to see this world as a place full of women, but rather a place full of people who all share the same set of emotions. Clearly you're not happy about your physical appearance, or at least your face. Well, there's no changing it, so you have to get over it. Whenever I start getting "down" on my looks, I say to myself, "Well, sh*t, I'm not trying to win a beauty contest. And I don't go around bragging about how good-looking I am. So if I'm not Brad Pitt, that's cool because I never said I was." Hundreds of women on LS will tell you that personality is the winner, anyway. (They're all lying, but hey, for what it's worth). Judging by your posts, you are kind of a downer, which is fine - you've got some issues in your life and I can empathize. But figure it out, find something to make you happy. Because once you have really, truly acheived inner joy, no one can take it away from you, and whether or not a girl "likes" you is of little importance - after all, you like yourself.
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