tassle01 Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 I always get healthy and great feedback so here I am again ... I once posted about a boyfriend whom I was dating for 2 years and then a year of long distance. We broke up and almost a year passed with NC. Regardless of who I was with during that year, he was always in my head and heart. We have started to speak again the past few weeks and it has been very friendly ... sending each other sweet emails; with jokes, music, pictures, etc. The other day we were on the phone at which point he asked if I want to get back together ... I said we hadn't seen each other in a year and should approach the topic when we are in the same place at the same time. The next day we spoke and he called me his "friend". I clearly became annoyed and when he asked what was wrong I explained that we are not platonic friends and his asking me if I would get back together indicated that he wanted more than a friendship as well. He says for now he wants to be friends and when we are together again (which is in about 6 months) we will see if it works out ... until then he does not want to talk about it. He is right in the sense that he does not want to give me false promises because nothing could come of us being together now via long distance. However, I am unsure how to approach the situation at this point. Should I be his best friend for now and see where things go when we are together again? Or go NC until we are together again? We spoke today and the conversation ended with a fight because I was questioning where things between us are going while he says we should not talk about this now and only discuss it when the possibilty of being together actually exists. I ended the conversation with "if and when you decide that I am in your heart and you want to be with me ... call me". I realize now that I am wrong and tried calling him back to no avail, I guess he is ticked off with me. I have always been the overbearing, controlling girlfriend and have told him that I've changed. He wants to see this change, but I feel like I am walking a fine line ... don't know if I should call ... wait for him to initiate contact ... go NC ... be his friend ... ???
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