David C. Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 Hello everyone. I just joined the site because I am going crazy without my ex. We had been dating for over 3 1/2 years. I feel I have made the biggest mistake of my life last week. My girlfriend and me got in an argument via text message, which was a mistake from the start. We have done this in the past over little stuff but we always end up meeting the next day and sorting things out. Anyways, she wanted to wait 5 days to see me in person so she could think about things. I couldn't do this. I tried calling her but she never answered. I texted her and she would reply to that but just gave me short little responses. I felt I couldn't take it anymore so I decided to write her a long e-mail. I wrote the entire thing in my car sitting in a parking lot. I was crying the entire time and wasn't really thinking straight. I said a bunch of things I didn't mean but also how much she meant to me. At the very end I said "I don't really expect a reply from this, but hope you think about it for when we meet". About 30 minutes pass and I receive a text message from her that says "Okay, so I guess thats it?" This was not the response I wanted to hear. Is it possible she is going to give up 3 1/2 years just like that? I never expected her to take it as a breakup and I didn't intend for it to be taken that way. She said she needed her space and to not talk to her. A couple of days passed and we finally met in person. I told her how sorry I was and that I didn't mean all of the things I said. She said she would like to be friends but it is going to take her a while to get over this. I can't let my relationship with her end like that...We didn't even attempt to talk things over. I love her with all of my heart and I know she is the right person for me. I have a few more things of hers that she want's back but she just wants me to drop them off at her moms house. I am taking my friends advice and going to give her a couple weeks with no contact to think about things. Do you guys think this is too long or not enough time? I'm so confused at what to do. I can't live my life without her.
robinincarolina Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 First of all you can live your life without her. Been there. And I am still alive. Give her the time. If you are after her all the time, I promise she will get annoyed and eventually she will get angry and lash out at you. You said you couln't live without her so I am telling you think long term here. You want her forever. Don't think about whats going to make you feel better today and seek out instant gratification. Think about the fact that you want to spend the rest of your life with her. That being said, you are going to have to suffer while you give her space, but it could be worth it don't you think. Give her time to miss you. If you are calling texting etc, she has no time to miss you. Trust me on this. Give it a couple of weeks.
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