Mydish1 Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 So here's my story, I was coming back from lunch and I went into the elevator first, quickly right behind me there is a stunning woman with long jet black hair entering. Just as she entered she had a big smile on her face and I greeted her with a handshake. I asked her if she's from the other company on the floor she says yes and she asks me the same. Then I introduce myself and so does she. As the elevator door opens I ask if she has a business card, and she hands it to me. There wasn't much time for small talk as the elevator arrived quickly to our floor Right before we part ways I reach for my wallet saying 'wait I have a business card too'. Before I know it and I look back she's by her company door and she said something along the lines of 'Call me if you need anything'. On her card there's an office number, cell, and company email. We barely had a chat on the elevator. I'd be interested in asking her out but would be patient to wait till the next time I run into her again. Honestly I don't know if she's interested but I see some options on this: 1) send her a friendly email and go about from there (then ask her out) 2) call her cell and continue on with the small talk (then ask her out) 3) wait until the next time I run into her (god knows when) and go about from there What do you guys think?
lora22 Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 I recently quoted Wayne Gretzky to someone else on here: You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. That said, I feel like I don't have enough information based on what you said to go on. Maybe this is just because there's nothing else to go on. Based on the info you gave, I personally would just take option 3 and wait until next time I saw her to impress her with my good looks/wit/insert-winning-quality-here, and to feel out her level of interest. I also just tend to be a fan of seduction (wow her with whatever quality next time you run into her, leave it at that, let her imagination wander until your next encounter...). That said, I would also try to do a little recon on her to figure out a little more about her and her schedule, so you can accidentally-on-purpose run into her again. But that's just me, and not how things usually work, or even how they should.
Author Mydish1 Posted May 29, 2009 Author Posted May 29, 2009 That's for the response it was helpful. Yeah I know what you're saying. Pretty much everything that happened was all laid out in my prior post. The elevator arrived very quickly to the floor. So there wasn't enough time to feel out whether she was interested in me or not either. Although her company has a lot of employees, it's rare for me to run into the same person twice from the company. Plus I don't have any contacts that work there either. Well, I guess it's all on luck and fate from hereon.
lora22 Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 In that case, since you're interested, and it doesn't sound like you have anything to lose, or any way to "accidentally" run into her again...I say just go for it! I don't think it would hurt to call her and just be like Hey, guy from elevator, wanna get dinner/coffee/whatever. That's very direct, which has its merits. Also nothing wrong with a very carefully thought-out and worded (and witty and flirty!!!!) email to set up some kind of rapport with her and open the lines of communication and take it from there. Also has its merits; obviously they both have their downsides too. I think the approach you take depends on what you're looking for. The first is a very fast and direct, I'm interested, are you interested, let's see where this goes kind of thing. The second is more flirty, but also more drawn out.
Author Mydish1 Posted May 29, 2009 Author Posted May 29, 2009 In that case, since you're interested, and it doesn't sound like you have anything to lose, or any way to "accidentally" run into her again...I say just go for it! I don't think it would hurt to call her and just be like Hey, guy from elevator, wanna get dinner/coffee/whatever. That's very direct, which has its merits. Also nothing wrong with a very carefully thought-out and worded (and witty and flirty!!!!) email to set up some kind of rapport with her and open the lines of communication and take it from there. Also has its merits; obviously they both have their downsides too. I think the approach you take depends on what you're looking for. The first is a very fast and direct, I'm interested, are you interested, let's see where this goes kind of thing. The second is more flirty, but also more drawn out. It's interesting you're a fan of seduction. What men really do is the picking up and play the charmer role while women are the true seducers. Tomorrow I'll send her a light email "Hey it was nice meeting you yesterday, I was the guy from the elevator blah blah blah...
lora22 Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 I honestly think the most fun and best relationships involve seduction! Let us know how it goes and good luck!
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