Lil Lola Posted October 26, 2003 Posted October 26, 2003 I will greatly appreciate any advice or insight you have into my situation. I have been close with my ex for a couple of years now. We talk about our relationships with each other, etc. He had been flirting with me this summer on a "i want you back" level and then he up and got a girlfriend. I stopped talking to him and he called me and told me he had broken up with her. Well, he has not. He just lied and is continuing to lie to me about it. This has been going on for a month now. He swears that he is single and wants me back, he has changed yada yada. Yet he tells her he loves her and takes her to important family events. What is the possible motivation for these lies? I am fine being just friends with him. It would hurt a lot less than him lying. Please help or respond in any way possible. Thanks! Lil Lola PS-he doesn't know i know he has a g/f if i didn't make that clear
UCFKevin Posted October 26, 2003 Posted October 26, 2003 As is the case in many situations here, he's playing both sides. He's trying out this new girl but he's keeping you as back up in case the new girl doesn't work out. He clearly can't do the "just friends" thing. If he's lying to you, what kind of friend is he?
Author Lil Lola Posted October 27, 2003 Author Posted October 27, 2003 So what exactly does that mean? Am I #2? Or a hold out in case he can't get any one when he is ready to settle down? He tells me he wants to marry me. That will be hard if I never talk to him again. Also, he is much more interested when I am unavailable...so is he just playing games?
UCFKevin Posted October 27, 2003 Posted October 27, 2003 Yes. He's screwing around and when he's done he's expecting you to be waiting for him.
Author Lil Lola Posted October 27, 2003 Author Posted October 27, 2003 Ugh.. so this is pathetic but does he like me at all?
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