Author dreamergrl Posted May 30, 2009 Author Posted May 30, 2009 I really don't like playing games, but I have to admit, it was kind of funny seeing all these messages from him, now he being the one getting a bit anxious. I can't help but to get some amusement from it. I am kind of confused though, so someone slap me, if I was an option to him, why was he around all night messaging me and emailing me?
northstar1 Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 Because you gave him a brush off, and now his ego is bruised, so he's now putting the hook back out to see if you bite. Wants to know you still are interested. If you keep replying to him, he will try to reel you back in. So, you stop replying and put him in the trash bin.
Star Gazer Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 I really don't like playing games, but I have to admit, it was kind of funny seeing all these messages from him, now he being the one getting a bit anxious. I can't help but to get some amusement from it. I am kind of confused though, so someone slap me, if I was an option to him, why was he around all night messaging me and emailing me? I didn't necessarily think that he had chosen to spend the evening with someone else. I just thought his interest was low - very low. So low that he'd rather spend the evening alone (probably emailing and IMing other girls though) and make up a LAME excuse. Then when he wants to give you a pellet of attention to keep you on the hook (as carhill said), he's so lazy that he STILL can't pick up the phone. It doesn't take much effort to send you emails and IMs. I mean, really. That said, it's very likely that the potential for plans with 'something better' DID come along, and that's why he flaked on you. When those plans fell through, he then tried to get back on your good side, although through very little effort. This is EXACTLY what the jerk I dated before my BF did.... And the cycle continued over and over again until I finally walked. Remember him?
mr.dream merchant Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 Dreamergrl you just seem to attract guys who really don't care much for you. Dump this guy and switch up ya style, see what it is about you that attracts cats like this. Stop making yourself more available, don't go all in, reserve some of yourself for when you feel homeboy is a catch!
tkgirl Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 I really don't like playing games, but I have to admit, it was kind of funny seeing all these messages from him, now he being the one getting a bit anxious. I can't help but to get some amusement from it. I am kind of confused though, so someone slap me, if I was an option to him, why was he around all night messaging me and emailing me? he is acting like a little BOY who knows he was BAD... it's like he's testing you to see what you'll put up with. So you have to ask yourself... do you really want a "bad boy" or a good MAN! the ball is in your court.... but IMHO, cut your losses and move on... bad boys, while they may be "fun" (?) at first, they are so NOT worth it!!!
Ariadne Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 if I was an option to him, why was he around all night messaging me and emailing me? Is like when you take the toy away from the kid, then they want it. Plus, you seem like a very nice person.
Author dreamergrl Posted May 30, 2009 Author Posted May 30, 2009 Is like when you take the toy away from the kid, then they want it. Plus, you seem like a very nice person. Crap, if I'm nice, why did the toy need to be taken away? Honestly, I often wonder if with having my anxiety will often cause problems in relationships regardless of the guy. There's been all but maybe one or two I wasn't wondering about. One came off as way to needy and the other was my ex fiance. I never worried about him.
tkgirl Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 Is like when you take the toy away from the kid, then they want it. Plus, you seem like a very nice person. exactly... like I said, he's a little BOY! ugh...
tkgirl Posted May 30, 2009 Posted May 30, 2009 Crap, if I'm nice, why did the toy need to be taken away? Honestly, I often wonder if with having my anxiety will often cause problems in relationships regardless of the guy. There's been all but maybe one or two I wasn't wondering about. One came off as way to needy and the other was my ex fiance. I never worried about him. oh dreamer... you and I sound so much alike! and yes, I do think when we start acting a little "anxious" that guys can definitely sense that and they get freaked out. I actually think that's what really happened last night. You wanted to do something nice and cook him dinner, and he got freaked and decided he wasn't ready for that. I know, it was just a dinner! but some guys see stuff like that as we are getting "too serious" or something and they don't know where they are yet as far as their feelings. At that point it's best to just step back and let them figure it out... but you also have to decide what you want for yourself. He sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do... whether you want to wait around for him to figure it out is up to you, but rememember, some guys NEVER grow up!
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