wow123 Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 Over a month of be broken up and on 2 weeks NC I thought I was finally getting better. Today I wake up feeling miserable and still do right now. Is it normal to slip back into depression?
bluewolf17 Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 From what I have learned-yes. I am going through it right now. 3 months since the break up, 14 days NC. It's like it just happend last night. Hang in there.
Author wow123 Posted May 28, 2009 Author Posted May 28, 2009 Wow. I dont know your whole story bluewolf but the time of breakup and NC is almost exact. I feel like I am back to day 1 today as well. The only difference is I dont want to break the NC as much as I did on day 1.
bluewolf17 Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 "I feel like I am back to day 1 today as well. The only difference is I dont want to break the NC as much as I did on day 1" That will happen. Good days, okay days, bad days, and bleh days. I am glad you don't want to break NC. I haven't had the urge that often anymore. I know that if he wanted to be with me, he would reach out to me. I made it very clear that I didn't want the breakup, and wanted to work on it. So there really is no point to contact them. Why drag it out? NC will force you to have dignity and self respect. It doesn't allow for pleading to them.
Author wow123 Posted May 28, 2009 Author Posted May 28, 2009 I have even managed to avoid contact from the dumper on a few occasions over the past two weeks. I just dont think she was reaching out to reconcile. No voicemails just missed calls. Do you think it was a mistake to ignore the contact?
iBelieve In Symmetry Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 Do you think it was a mistake to ignore the contact? No! For my case, it was a mistake considering that. She did the same for me... called, but no voicemail. Like an idiot, I called back thinking she wanted to get back with me or try to work things out. And it was a mistake. Don't do it! I have realized she ignores me, tortures me, and it gets to a point where I tell myself, "Okay, she obviously is not coming back, I have to stop." So I stop with everything... and it's like she knows! She gets in contact with me about every two weeks and just pushes me back to square one. She knows how to handle me... don't let your ex do the same. My ex just wants me there as a back-up plan, and she knows exactly how to make me stay there. But no more Mr. Pushover. If she really wants to talk and try working things out, she'd call and leave a message telling you so. Especially if she knows you're doing NC. If she knows you're doing NC, then she's probably just calling to torture you and tempt you, just like my ex LOVES to do. She's such a f*cking bitch.
Author wow123 Posted May 28, 2009 Author Posted May 28, 2009 I guess its a power thing. They know we are in love with them and they have power over us that they don't want to lose. She didnt even wait a week to call me after I started NC. She is probably shocked that I am not answering or calling back.
iBelieve In Symmetry Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 I guess its a power thing. They know we are in love with them and they have power over us that they don't want to lose. She didnt even wait a week to call me after I started NC. She is probably shocked that I am not answering or calling back. Exactly! You got it. Pretty much same exact thing with mine... Now just stay strong, and don't break NC.
Author wow123 Posted May 28, 2009 Author Posted May 28, 2009 Im going to stay strong. I'm not giving in to make someone else feel better about themselves. I need to worry about getting better myself.
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