rya794 Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 so im considering telling my cheating ex fiance to come spend the night with me. last week when we were still talking (fighting but speaking nonetheless) she said that she wanted to come in to town a couple of days early when she would be visiting a friend that lives near me so that she could spend a couple nights with me. Im sitting here all alone and even though i told her i dont want to talk to her again im thinking how great it would be if she were here. please talk me down off this ledge.
wow123 Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 If you already know there is no chance of getting back together...DONT DO IT
Charmaine_Champagne Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 i think you already know deep down that it is a bad idea to have her come over, hence your post/doubt. i would keep occupied that time that she is visiting, go away with friends, organize something to keep her off your mind and to occupy yourself. keep reminding yourself that she cheated, she doesn't deserve your company or anything from you for that matter. i can relate to the loneliness though, my ex treated me like crap and there are times i miss him so much i'd do anything to spend some time with him but i know it would only fulfill this ache i have for him temporarily and then he would leave & i would go back to feeing even worse. heck, i'm 100 days NC now and sometimes i wonder am i doing the right thing. i'd love to reply to him but my head tells me i simply can't
redy2 Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 hey i was in the same boat and let her come back for the night which was like 2 weeks ago. after bout 3 -4 days in she started back with her wishy-washy mess. now im wishing i hadnt. so think really hard dude. before you do. you could reopen the wound. bigtime
LadyV Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 Trust me on this one...okay? You have to stick to NC. Take it from someone who has walked this road, not 1 time, but 2 times. You miss her, of course. But really think about what it could to do you? It could prolong the break up. It would be lke pouring salt on a wound...It will just hurt you more in the long run.... Good Luck to you!
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