Emilhon Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 Help! I want all the advice possible to my story! I'm confused. I know what most people are going to tell me to do but I want more opinions on what's been going on before I make up my mind to do something. I dated a guy for 3 months. We got comfortable real quick. He was probably spending 5-6 out of 7 nights at my place a week. I've never lived with a boyfriend before so it was all new and exciting to me as many will say that is moving pretty fast. He came over always on his own accord. I never asked or whinned, he'd call and say what are you doing or something and then say can I come over? After 3 months we had that awkward night where he tells me he doesn't think he's in love with me. No one had said love or asked about love but I did think about it and apparently he was NOT thinking about it. He said he loves hanging out with me and he really really likes me but he doesn't see it long term. I was sad, I cried, he held me and even stayed the night. Nothing happend just held me. I was taken off guard as I thought things were great. We never fought, we get along great. He was under lots of stress I'm sure but anyways the next morning he hugged me for a long time at the door and off he went. We never discussed still being friends or anything like that. A week after the break up an order of dog medicine from his cousin came in for me so he text me and offered to bring it over or mail or whatever I wanted. I suggested we meet in public. We did, I got the stuff, paid the money, he looked like he was going to lean against my car and start to chat but I said I had to get going. He gave a sort of chuckle and I left. 3 weeks went by and nothing. Then again I get a text message asking me when is a good time to come get the things he left at my place. I knew he left a few things as did I at his place but I figured it was tit for tat. Nothing too important. So I told him when and he called me and came over. I gave him his things and to my surprise he strolled over to the couch, leaned against it and started to chat. We talked for about 2 hours about everything that had been going on in our lives for the 3 weeks but nothing about "us". He threw in a few things like "why are you seeing someone?" and he was very intersted in who called my phone when it rang. Eventually he said he should get going before some store closed and we walked to the door. He put on his shoes and leaned against the wall and continued to talk. We did that for another 15-20 mins and he went to open the door and turned to me and we had the awkward stare like are you going to hug me, are you going to? It was a nice, sweet stare but none the less I held my ground and just stood there until he said his good byes. I couldn't do anything! He dumped me because he didn't "know" if he loved me and I'm supposed to hug him? Later that week we text a bit. I believe I initiated some of texts but either way he responded always and not just one word "go away" things. After the long weekend we text again about our weekend. After texting for about 2 hours I got up the nerve to just text him to let me know if he ever wanted to hang out at one of our frequented spots or something to let me know. He responded that he would. I thought this would show I was still interested in seeing him. So to my HUGE surprise he called me that night and asked if I wanted to go grocery shopping with him! I was shocked and I went. We had good laughs and it felt like old times. He came back to my place to help me bring up groceries, stayed for 40 mins, did the door linger thing for a bit but eventually left, no hug or anything. Since that we've text more and he's called me a bunch of times. We chatted another night for an hour or 2 and I knew he was really tired and I kept waiting for him to do the "I should go I'm tired" but he stayed on for quite a bit. The next day for no reason I got a text that said there was a sale on bbqs. I responded that he'd have to help me get it home and build it. We text back and forth cute little things and he ended up calling me to chat and we set up a date to go shopping for this item in which I had never indicated I needed! Yesterday was the big day. He came over to get me, we shopped around at a bunch of places, had lots of laughs and it was just like usual. He even suggested he show me how to drive a motorcycle using his precious bike! We got back to my place kind of late, built the bbq, bbqed food I bought and watched a movie. I didn't get any "flirty" signs from him however he was not usually like that to begin with, super flirty and coy I mean. So I still did not know. The fact that he spent all these hours with me meant something I thought! So he sat on the couch, I put a pillow agains his legs and laid down. I was hoping for an arm around me, play with my hair, SOMETHING but nothing. During the movie I was curled in a ball, chilly. He saw and got up, turned off my air conditioner, brought me a blanket and closed the patio without me saying anything! The movie ended at about 1am. He fell asleep a few times, I knew he was dead tired. He stayed seated for a bit and we chatted, he then got up which I thought he was going to get his things to go and he made it a point to tell me he was just going to the washroom. He then came back and sat down, watched a bit of what I put on tv and then got up again and started bringing our dinner dishes into the kitchen and cleaning up. So I got up, we cleaned up and chatted, he gathered his tools and things and lingered at the door yet again. This time I hugged him and said thanks for everything. He thanked me too for dinner. He left. That was yesterday. I know everyone's advice is that I need to ask him straight up. I'm a chicken I'll admit that. I guess I need more compelling opinions on if they think he's just "really" nice or what! I've never ever ever remained friends with any ex after a break up so as silly as I feel this is all new to me and I don't want to think there is something there when it's just general "niceness"! What do yout think?
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