bluewolf17 Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 So I venting. In January I bought tickets for 10 days in Kauai for my ex and I. I also put down $700 deposit for a rental home. In February we break up. I decided I still wanted to go, but with my brother. So I finally called Orbitz today, and was told that what I need to do is cancel the flight (they can't put the x's ticket in a new name) and repurchase tickets. But there is a $150 airline fee, a $30 Orbitz fee, and get this, even though I bought the tickets on my debit card, my ex will get a credit for his ticket, and I will get a credit for my ticket, minus the fees. So I spent over $1100, and my ex gets a credit of around $415.00 (and I can't claim it). I just started crying on the phone. It's just another slap in the face that we aren't together, and life is just crappy. So I ended up cancelling both tickets, and cancelling the rental home (luckily I cancelled in time to get all my money back). For a SECOND I considered emailing him, and telling him he has a credit with Orbitz, but then I realized that A) that would be breaking my 2 weeks of NC and B) he doesn't deserve the credit. This was going to be a huge romantic vacation-we even talked engagement. Now not only am I out all the money, but it's just re-opened heartbrake wound. It's only another reminder (like I need it) that he's gone, and I am the one that has to deal with the pain, while he gets to glide through it.
LadyV Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 So I venting. In January I bought tickets for 10 days in Kauai for my ex and I. I also put down $700 deposit for a rental home. In February we break up. I decided I still wanted to go, but with my brother. So I finally called Orbitz today, and was told that what I need to do is cancel the flight (they can't put the x's ticket in a new name) and repurchase tickets. But there is a $150 airline fee, a $30 Orbitz fee, and get this, even though I bought the tickets on my debit card, my ex will get a credit for his ticket, and I will get a credit for my ticket, minus the fees. So I spent over $1100, and my ex gets a credit of around $415.00 (and I can't claim it). I just started crying on the phone. It's just another slap in the face that we aren't together, and life is just crappy. So I ended up cancelling both tickets, and cancelling the rental home (luckily I cancelled in time to get all my money back). For a SECOND I considered emailing him, and telling him he has a credit with Orbitz, but then I realized that A) that would be breaking my 2 weeks of NC and B) he doesn't deserve the credit. This was going to be a huge romantic vacation-we even talked engagement. Now not only am I out all the money, but it's just re-opened heartbrake wound. It's only another reminder (like I need it) that he's gone, and I am the one that has to deal with the pain, while he gets to glide through it. Blue, I'm so sorry......I remember you mentioning that you were going to take the trip with your brother!!! I know, it does hurt, it is a reminder. But IMHO, DO NOT CONTACT HIM!!! Is there a way that maybe orbitz can email him and let him know? You've done so good!!!! Just a suggestion?
notalone Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 That sucks! I feel for you Blue. The last thing you needed was having to cancel a pre-planned holiday. But then, I imagine going for it would have been very painful too. You would have kept on thinking about how different it would have been had your ex been there with you. So consider it a blessing in disguise. Good on you that you resisted the urge to contact him. You made the right decision. As for why some of us have to bear the burden of pain and loss and some just get to glide though...I'll never know. I like your signature. That has been my mantra for the last few months.
Author bluewolf17 Posted May 28, 2009 Author Posted May 28, 2009 Thanks guys. Since I was the purchaser, I am the only point of contact. Orbitz won't contact him. It TOTALLY feels like the burden and pain is 100% on me .He made a mess and I get to sweep it up. And NO, I won't contact him. This just made me madder, and sadder. Yes, I know this too, will pass (I love that saying) I just hate waiting around for that day to be free of it. I did consider not going with my brother, but he would have made it so much fun. He wouldn't let me have a bad time. Plus, by the time we would have gone (September) it would have been 7 months since the break up, so I figured I would be in a better place. I dread telling my brother. He was really looking forward to it.
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