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dark1san

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dark1san Established Member

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My gf and I won't be having a "long distance" relationship, not even a month in between seeing one another, and I'm acting like it's the end of the world for me and her, and then I come on to this part of loveshack.org and see some of you haven't seen your significant other for months upon months, and I feel like a total loser now. I'm so sorry for making my situation seem bad when you all are dealing with situations far more streneous than mine in good thoughts and wishes.

 

I'm so sorry for my selfish thoughts and ways, I know you all don't even know me and I've never posted on this board in the forums before, but I'm sorry :(

Midas Established Member

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It's understandable, dark1san. I've had feelings like that too, and I'm sure many people have experienced relationship change anxiety. Don't make the situation seem worse than it is by "awful-izing" it to death. Look for the positive things instead of the negative.

 

Keep coming back! It gets better. :)

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dark1san Established Member

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12 days between seeing her shouldn't be that bad right, think it goes back to this guy at work he got on me about not seeing her every day and saying,"you guys are just friends not bf gf cause you don't see each other alot" that's a bs call on his part right?

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I truly admire and respect the people who frequent this division of LoveShack. To keep love alive thousands of miles away is quite spectacular, not to mention powerful!

 

It really helps me to read about their situations because its incredibly humbling for me.

 

I bitch and complain about my "long distance" relationship... and we get the privilege of seeing each other almost every weekend!!

 

My hats off to you all! ;)

Admiral Established Member

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It's not selfish, any self respecting man won't lock up his balls in a long term relationship.

 

Sure, date her, but not exclusively. If she's 1000km away, you can't have sex, so get it somewhere else.

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12 days between seeing her shouldn't be that bad right, think it goes back to this guy at work he got on me about not seeing her every day and saying,"you guys are just friends not bf gf cause you don't see each other alot" that's a bs call on his part right?

 

 

Dark1, I'm going to share with you some very wise advice that was passed down to me by someone (okay, so it's my very wise partner lol). Please, be CAUTIOUS about who you allow into your relationship. When you have an issue; take it expressly to your partner not to another ear who's listening and ask for their imput. Only the two of you really and trully know one another and the relationship you have, outsiders will try and be helpful (some won't try however) based on what they know but having not experienced your relationship for themselves even on a "2 sided day" they won't know everything.

 

Learn to work things out with your partner, if something is nagging you tell them. Something you're unsure of? Ask them. It will be much healthier for the relationship and it's very easy to find a few people to agree with a thought you're having at a rough patch in the relationship (that's why we really all run to our friends/family/msg boards 90 percent of the time, right?) and you might decide "yeah they are right" and later on down the road regret the decision when you're no longer caught up in the emotions of the moment.

 

The best thing you can do is learn to rely on your partner, best of luck to you.

sunflower89 Established Member

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Don't be sorry! LDR suck insane amounts of ass in general. I have 5000 miles between me and my man but have a friend who is just 100 miles away from hers and we both feel horrible and sad some days and can chat together about it. It's not a case of "who has it worse"..We are all in this together!

 

Flower x

Els Established Member

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It's not selfish, any self respecting man won't lock up his balls in a long term relationship.

 

Sure, date her, but not exclusively. If she's 1000km away, you can't have sex, so get it somewhere else.

 

Sorry, but everyone's definition of a 'self-respecting man' differs. For example, you don't qualify for either the 'self-respecting' or the 'man' part, in my humble opinion, based on your utterly ludicrous and immature trolling on this forum. ;)

 

OP, you don't need to apologize! Every relationship has its problems. Wherever we look there WILL be people who have it worse than us, and people who have it better. It's not wrong to feel worried or unhappy, just because there are other people who have it worse.

 

All the best to you and your SO, OP! :)

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I dont think Admiral qualifies as anything really other than wasted air.

 

Really, use some of that hot air you're blowing out of your ass to say something good once in a while. Cause no one is listening to you here.

 

OP, don't apologize. Just be thankful for the time that you DO get to spend with her. :bunny:

SophieA Established Member

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Kind of just goes to show that no matter how bad you think you have it...someone out there always has it worse. Gotta just try to make the best of things. :) It's super hard sometimes though.

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It's not selfish, any self respecting man won't lock up his balls in a long term relationship.

 

Sure, date her, but not exclusively. If she's 1000km away, you can't have sex, so get it somewhere else.

 

 

 

Never mind Admiral someone out there somewhere will love you too. I know deep down you are romantic at heart. God bless you:love:

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Never mind Admiral someone out there somewhere will love you too. I know deep down you are romantic at heart. God bless you:love:

 

Ahhh! Bearandsue that's really sweet! :lmao:

 

dark1san - no apology necessary - really!

 

We all have our own crosses to bear and, even if it may look as though somebody else has a heavier one, just remember, it will always be the one that you're carrying that matters the most to you.

 

All relationships are tough in their own way - good luck with yours. :)

Island Girl Established Member

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I so appreciate this post and those after.

 

It is wonderful that those of us here to know we inspire others to be grateful for their time with their SO. As we all know our time here is limited and no one knows when that time will come.

 

Most of us accept the circumstances of our LDRs because they are the cards that were dealt. We didn't choose this but we deal with it the best way we can.

 

Being told these kinds of things somehow makes my days a bit easier and gives me the strength to push on.

 

Thank you to all.

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