who_knows_who Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 Hi there, I am hoping to get some advice or a different view of this. My story goes like this. My ex girl friend broke up with me by the end of last year. We used to live together for over 5 years and I didnt see that coming. I was trying everything to change her mind but nothing worked. The more I try to keep us together the more she pulled away. It was the most painfull experiences I have ever went through. During the breakup she wanted to stay friends I told her that I can not be just friends with her because of our history and thats when I started to stop all contact with her. Anyway after a lot of pain I started the NC time period and for 3 month I didn´t hear anthing from her. A close friend of my called me last week to tell me that my ex just rung him up and left a message on his answer mashine just to ask him about me she wanted to know how I am doing. She never rung him up before. I am not sure what this means or what to do. I pretty much thought I am never going to hear or see anything from her. I dont know if I should get back in touch with her or try to avoid her. If she wants to know how I am doing why didn´t she call me and ask me? Is she reaching out for me? The truth is I can´t get her out of my head it is almost 4 month ago since i talked to her for the last time and I am still thinking of her. What am I suppose to do now?
NopeNah Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 I think if she wanted to hear from you she would have called you..up to you though.. id also ask my friend to give her no info on me. She can contact you if she wishes and it'll be up to you where you take it from there..just my 2 pennies!
samspade Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 You can't get her out of her head because you're not over her. So, you should NOT get in touch with her. Your ex is just looking for confirmation that you don't hate her. She needs to ease the guilt she feels for dumping you. Unless you are 120% over your ex and have no problem having her as a friend, I recommend you let it be. Don't undo the progress you've made.
Author who_knows_who Posted May 30, 2009 Author Posted May 30, 2009 Thanks for the feed back I think you are right and it would be a mistake and thats why i let it go and hope it is going to be less painfull with the time.
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