cruzin80 Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 4 months ago I reunited with a chick I used to go to primary school with through facebook. Started chatting heaps, as in everyday. A few weeks later exchanged phone numbers and since then been talking everyday. There was vibes/attraction to each other there. I have since travelled down to see her 3x.(live interstate). Everything has seemed good up until the last trip down, where she seemed unusaually quiet compared to normal. She has been stressed with work, and also had a major falling out with someone at work last week which upset her big time. I was unsure whether to make the trip down, but ended up going as she seemed very keen about the idea. Long story short, she had planned to come up to see me early next month and told me last week she would book her flights whilst down there last weekend. Limited flights available as it is a long weekend....Since the weekend there has been no mention at all about coming up anymore. Not only that but since returning our conversations are now at a different level. Instead of the usual 40min phonecalls she is now lucky to talk to me for 5mins... Not getting the usual txt msg's anymore ie. Hey how was ur day...or good night, hope you have a great day etc etc I am starting to think she is "not interested" anymore. I would have liked to talk to her about where we might be headed (after 4months talking everyday thought there should be some indication). All I can say is she seems to be very up and down about things. I have not quizzed her too much as I dont want to scare her off.(still early days) But not knowing anything is killing me, as I have feelings for her and feel we have alot in common. I just feel that if she has issues then we need to talk about it. ie the whole long distance thing etc etc. Looking at her facebook wall and her friends comments about photos etc etc I swear its as if she has told them that she has a new bf, but she sure does have a funny way of showing it. Its confusing the hell out of me. The other thing is my sister especially booked up a trip that same weekend to catch with her as she was very good friends with her at school to. So its not just me its affected if she dont come up. A little about me, I do have a history of wanting things to grow too quickly when meeting a girl. But with this in mind I have tried to take it easy....but I am starting to think that maybe that last trip down was all too much for her. She has been extremely run down of late, and I have also been very runned down too, as I am a sleep deprived shift worker. A mistake I think has been the fact that we slept with each other too soon (as in first weekend with her). Every weekend down there we have had sex. But the level of affection and communication particularly the last day down there weekend just gone has dropped big time, on her part anyway. I have blown a few potential relationships by wanting too much straight away. But all I am wanting from her is her thoughts on where we are going with it all....should I hit her up and ask her straight up??? or should I lay low for a while and go with the flow. I know relationships take time to grow, but we had been getting along so so well, and now its seems to really have died in the arse. Very confused as what to do... Some female opinions would be great....any commments welcome. Thanks.
Author cruzin80 Posted May 28, 2009 Author Posted May 28, 2009 We have only spent 3 weekends at this stage....not sure if that would be too direct....we have spent hours and hours on the phone to each other but thats different to being in person
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