somethingwrong Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 hi everyone, my ex has been hesitant to hang out with me. she says she's "just confused" and doesn't think it can be the same. i feel like she doesn't love me anymore. she says that there isn't anybody else, but she's been going out with friends a lot for the first time in a while and i feel like it's inflating her ego and she no longer needs validation from me to be happy. i feel so hurt and betrayed because our break up was out of nowhere. she just started to hang out with her old friends again (who i'm not too fond of) and started ignoring me. i went no contact for a few days, but she called me again. she's called me a few times and has said that a part of her still wants this. i feel like throwing up. a part of her? what happened to the commitment? why is this happening? she won't tell me what she's confused about specifically. she says it's something that she's embarrassed about. i know i should accept this and move on, but i feel like my world has been flipped upside down. she used to be OBSESSED with me and now has dropped me. i'm not even sure that i want her back after this. how could i trust her? gah. i'm so lonely, too. we both gave up a lot of friends while we were together. she has dumped me after going back to them. i feel used. and most of my friends have moved out of state, or she hangs out with them. it just sucks. should i just go back to no contact and ignore her calls? i'm so heartbroken.
contax Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 Were we dating the same girl? lol! She said the same thing to me - I'm confused etc.. I left her cause she was hanging with this one dude...she used to obsessed with me too....I left her out of anger, called her back and asked if we can work it out...she said no....3 days later I find out shes with that same guy!...She denied it for 2 weeks...but eventually admitted it. It's been 5 months since the break....1 month of no contact..there I was n/c before...but I broke it by answering her calls...I haven't called her for like 3 months...earlier she kept saying how she wishes I were by her side, blah blah blah...shes only happy with him sometimes....they are both unemployed and on welfare.....+ the dude drinks and does other things, and she is against that... I work, am fit physically, and doing my own thing.... + she called me 47 times in a 40 min period, also on a saturday night while I was out in the City, she was at home... Yesterday I felt a little down, but today I'm hyper.... Go NC bro......I'm not saying she's with someone else...still though... That's wack...she'll see what shes missing.....from what I understand I feel you are doing well.... You will find someone right for you, and so will I. Go NC, exercise, rest well, ask yourself what you're grateful, happy, excited and enjoying everyday. Hope that helps!
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