21confessions Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 Were to begin... I've been seeing this amazing guy for the past four years. My only problem with him has been his ex whom he remains friends with. They dated for about eight months when she decided to end there relationship. I knew of her because he and I were friends who talked on a fairly regular basis. A few months pass by after there relationship had ended that he asked me out. It seemed perfect a friend turned boyfriend, what could be better. Only thing was she would call and want to hang out, so they would do just that. It bothered be but I never let it be known untill I was told he had slept with her. Of course he denied the entire thing as tears trimmed down his face. Here recently he confessed to me that what happened two years ago was in fact true. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. He said he thought he still had feelings for her and that it was something that just happened. In tears once again he tells me the reason for not telling me was because he coudn't stand to see me hurt, that he's sorry, and I'm the one he wants. I told him he must cut all tries with her for this relationship to continue and he said fine, done. Do I believe him an move on or end the relationship.
TaraMaiden Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 He finally came up honest because I suspect the lying was eating at him. This may be an indication that he wants to be with you sos trongly, that he could not live with being deceitful. You asked him to cut all ties, and he did not protest or prevaricate. he said 'fine, done'. Give him the opportunity to be in love with you and make you happy. But if he is dropping the ex (and of course, he has to prove himself) do not ever reproach him, or use it as a means of attack, or a weapon. If he is dropping her, then so must you. You have to both work to get over this. he has to prove himself to you. But you have to let him. _/l\_
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