LoXs Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 Hi, Long story short we broke up in November after 3 years and I have been up and down getting over her. Recently things have been going ok but someone I know said they saw her holding hands with a guy at a gig. This really has hit me quite hard and really pushed me back getting over her. How the hell do you deal with that and all the emotions that come with it? Being upset, jealous, feeling guilty and the massive feeling of loss? Advice and help much appreciated,
notalone Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 Broke up in November...that would be six months. People are allowed to move on in six months. Hell...my ex moved on in two weeks. Yes, It effing kills you. But the thing is, you can not control what another person does with her life. And have you been sitting at home pining for her all this while?
robinincarolina Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 She went on with her life. Now you have to accept that and move on with yours. It may hurt and it may not be easy, but you now have no choice. Go out there and date someone else. Have a good time. Life is too short.
Soul Bear Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 what I do in your situation is think about it and focus on the pain, find out where the pain is coming from and THAT is when you will find the source of your unhappieness 6 months after the R. That feeling of loss is not for her, its just a gap she filled inside of you. You need to fill that with YOU and become a whole person again Once you get mentaly used to the idea it wont bother you as much. Start dating bro, its been 6 months now
gavroche Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 I'm in a similar boat, just realised that my ex of 7 days is back on the scene signed up to a dating site. This hurts like hell, only a week and she's already moved on and here's me pining. My advice to you is to focus on why you are so upset, I reckon it's not totally about the girl. Funny thing is, six months down the road you often wonder what you saw in them in the first place. After six months I think you should start having a look around for other girls.
Author LoXs Posted May 28, 2009 Author Posted May 28, 2009 Thanks for the advice guys. I suppose the truth is a lot of us sit and hope but what a bad thing it is to hope! I know I have no choice in the matter and of course she is going to move on, guess its time I tried too. I have been ok with the whole thing but then I started to view the relationship through rose tinted glasses again. I know things were not good at all and I guess ultimatly its her loss!
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