fooled once Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 Wow.. I just can't figure out WHY people (men and women) put up with those lies, frustrations, pain, etc.. etc.. WTF is wrong with people... IF YOU DON'T LIKE YOUR SITUATION, GET OUT!!!!!! I can't stand 'doormats' who allow people to walk all over them.. and they choose to remain in that situation... in the name of 'love' ... give me a break.. this is NOT love.. she will never respect you cause she knows she can walk all over you... SHE DOESN'T LOVE YOU... what part don't you understand.. :rolleyes::rolleyes: RUN!!!!! NOW This is such a great post and it can be copy and pasted onto so many threads here, just change the gender of the posters. WHY do people put up with so many lies and bull crap in the name of "love"??? That is NOT LOVE.
Author newboyintown Posted June 21, 2009 Author Posted June 21, 2009 Well, out of all the posts, this was my least favorte, although the slap in the face "woke me up" a little bit, I still dont see the reasoning behind the language. This is supposed to be a place where utmost respect is given...that being said, I thank you for waking me up to reality. Sometimes tough love is the only thing that works. Do I turn the other cheek now for giving my heart when I shouldnt have?
mourningMM Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 Now the quandary is how do I let her down easy and make it permanent? Thank you You sound like the kind of person who soaks off a bandaid....not a bad thing to be thoughtful, but can cause a wound to be worse because it lets other stuff in. You are making it easy for her if you give her a reason to really disconnect...which means being honest and slightly brutal. Leave no wiggle room for EITHER of you to reconnect. You deserve more, and there are lots of women who have more to give with much less drama. Go on eHarmony or Match or Chemistry in your area and I bet you'll find 20 or 30 likely candidates. Or even better, go to the grocery store and look for someone buying a single frozen dinner and ask her out for a burger if she's your type. Look for a hand with no ring, and make sure that she is drama free. You'll sleep better. This woman you are currently dating will find someone else to provide the drama she so obviously needs. You really sound like a nice guy; do the nice thing...RIP THAT BANDAID OFF FAST.
Author newboyintown Posted June 23, 2009 Author Posted June 23, 2009 I hope I don't regret hugging her in the hallway at work. She was nice this time and spoke about things I left at the house. It didn't really call for a hug, but I was drawn to her like a magnet, she said that she missed me and I said I missed her too. WHAT WAS I THINKING? I hope I didn't start something. I just miss her so much, but I am taking all your advice (except for the hug) and maintaining NC. I don't have a problem not calling her but seeing her in person is a whole other thing. Of course she smelled like beer at work. Her supervisors know that she is an alcoholic, so I guess her good looks helps her get away with it. Confused at my own actions. I know she is no good for me. HELP!
norajane Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I hope I don't regret hugging her in the hallway at work. She was nice this time and spoke about things I left at the house. It didn't really call for a hug, but I was drawn to her like a magnet, she said that she missed me and I said I missed her too. WHAT WAS I THINKING? I hope I didn't start something. I just miss her so much, but I am taking all your advice (except for the hug) and maintaining NC. I don't have a problem not calling her but seeing her in person is a whole other thing. Of course she smelled like beer at work. Her supervisors know that she is an alcoholic, so I guess her good looks helps her get away with it. Confused at my own actions. I know she is no good for me. HELP! You aren't maintaining NC if you are seeing her at work. Are you sure you're hoping that you didn't get things going again? She smelled like beer at work? And you are attracted to this? That wasn't a turn off? Keep this out of your workplace, or you may find yourself without a job.
Author newboyintown Posted June 25, 2009 Author Posted June 25, 2009 I know it was wrong, going out with someone at work, luckily she works in another department. She didn't call or text me after the hug, so she is respecting the NC. I am still feeling an emotional hangover although things are getting easier for me. I started this silly game of trying to match her in her drinking habits while we were together. Of course I don't want to become an alcoholic like her so I have stopped drinking. I tried to stop smoking, but I think trying to stop to many things at once is not good. I'm looking for another job. This is just too hard, I don't see her everyday, but just the thought of it, every time I walk in the door- makes me ill. Thanks again to LoveShack posters.
Chrome Barracuda Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Good lord are you a man or mouse, who's in control of your emotions you or this woman??? This woman was toxic from what you described of her, what the hell are you thinking. NC is NC! If that means a transfer than so be it. if the higher ups find out about all this drama and your implicated that could mean very bad stuff for you as well! What the hell are you thinking?
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