totallyunsure Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 my brother is a person who goes on quite a few dates but he said to me that he would never date anyone who smoked because as he put it 'there is nothing worse than seeing a beautiful woman with a fag hanging out of her mouth'.i do have to agree with him but everyone has flaws.is it just us or do other people mind if there partner smokes?????
loveslife Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 Ew gross, ex smoker here. Do not want those toxins in my system again. Don't want to kiss someone with stinky smokers breath and toxins that he's planting in my mouth (and other places.) Don't want to stink from cigarettes. Grossssss.
MeMyself&I Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 my brother is a person who goes on quite a few dates but he said to me that he would never date anyone who smoked because as he put it 'there is nothing worse than seeing a beautiful woman with a fag hanging out of her mouth'.i do have to agree with him but everyone has flaws.is it just us or do other people mind if there partner smokes????? I have a girlfriend who is adamant about not dating a smoker. I feel she is totally entitled to her choices. I don't smoke but I have dated guys that smoke and it's okay.......although I'd prefer they didn't--it's unhealthy. I know many people that smoke and probably 90 percent of them wish they could quit, had never started and struggle with it continually. My girlfriend got after me one day because I'm not attracted to guys that are overweight. I don't mean a little thick...I mean overweight. She said it was shallow. I said how is my not being attracted to a overweight person any different to your not being attracted to a person who smokes. Obesity is just as unhealthy as smoking. I have lots of friends who struggle with their weight and so have I. And I've fought hard to get back to a healthy weight. So I don't begrudge people who struggle this way at all. Anyway, It's a personal choice. We are attracted to what/who we are attracted to.
carhill Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 I think his preference is healthy. I would likely agree with it except for different reasons, like how our home and clothes would smell and the obvious effects on health. I grew up in the blue haze of a two smoker home and, while tolerant of other people's habits, am very glad to not live in that type of environment and doubt I would choose it in the future.
Jaytb Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 I would stay away from smokers. Just my preference. If someone has a problem with that, then tough luck. Also I think the same way about obesity and tattoos. Those are three dealbreakers for me. How about you OP?
Glenn Quagmire Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 I used to not mind. But now that I quit ... I could never date a smoker.
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 I can't stand the smell of smoke and the way it permeates everything. I don't consider it a little flaw. That stuff gets into fabric and simply does not go away. I hate it. The smell actually makes me physically ill. I couldn't overlook this no matter how good the guy.
kizik Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 I smoke just enough (3-4 a day) where stopping is not a problem. But I would also not smoke in front of a girl in the initial dating stages. Bad form.
Midas Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 Also an x-puffer. I can't stand the smell anymore. It nauseates me. I tried hanging out with this one girlfriend of mine, but she's a chain smoker. I'd get home and immediately take a hot bath. Disgusting.
jazzlovr1990 Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 i would prefer not to date a smoker but if i fell in love with a smoke i'd try to get them to stop
donnamaybe Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 Never a smoker for me. People who say they don't smoke but wouldn't mind dating a smoker would be in for a world of problems if they hit it off and found themselves in a situation in the future where there was a battle over whether or not it's okay to smoke in the house. You would have to be prepared to have your entire house and its belongings coated in a sticky layer of tar and nicotine.
alphamale Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 my brother is a person who goes on quite a few dates but he said to me that he would never date anyone who smoked because as he put it 'there is nothing worse than seeing a beautiful woman with a fag hanging out of her mouth'.i do have to agree with him but everyone has flaws.is it just us or do other people mind if there partner smokes????? i smoke and most of the women i've dated were non-smokers. its not a big deal if you are a considerate smoker. if someone likes you enough it won't be an issue. also, i like smoking cause it instantly gives me that bad-boy image. you never see any nerdy "nice guys" smoking...
Lucky555 Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 I have dated smokers and most times they say they are quitting but as time progressed they never did. Smoking is a deal breaker for me, it really really turns me off. You can smell smoke on the persons clothes no matter how much cologne they use. I won't date a smoker again. (my preference)
tanbark813 Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 Never a smoker for me. People who say they don't smoke but wouldn't mind dating a smoker would be in for a world of problems if they hit it off and found themselves in a situation in the future where there was a battle over whether or not it's okay to smoke in the house. You would have to be prepared to have your entire house and its belongings coated in a sticky layer of tar and nicotine. Or just date a smoker who doesn't smoke in the house. I'm not a smoker (aside from the occasional cigar) and my gf smokes but I don't mind it. She doesn't smoke in the house even in her own home.
OverThinker Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 It's like anything else in who we date we each have our likes and dislikes. I happen to smoke but for the first month my GF and I dated we hid it from each other. I have dated girls who never knew I smoked. I dont smoke in the house or car, and fabrez is a wonderfull thing. When I wasn't smoking I didn't find a girl who did smoke a turn off. It's just another personal preferance.
marlena Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 its not a big deal if you are a considerate smoker. if someone likes you enough it won't be an issue. Alpha, why is it that I agree with almost everything you post?
alphamale Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 Alpha, why is it that I agree with almost everything you post? i don't know
AAlike Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 I think that the frequency and location of smoking determines whether or not this is possible. I think that a complete non-smoker and a "social smoker" can be OK. I am a "smoke ONLY when drinking" guy, but I would never ever smoke in my own house or car - only when I'm at the bar (we can still smoke in a lot of places in PA), and when I wake up the smell of my own clothes makes me nauseous! i can't imagine if I smelled like that constantly. so how it's possible for a complete non-smoker or ex-smoker to date someone that's constantly smelling like smoke and blazing in their house is totally beyond me. but people do it. however, I'd be hard pressed to believe that it doesn't become a point of contention at some point during most relationships...
Enema Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 For me, it's moreso that my dad was a long-time smoker; gave up about 20 years ago. But, now he's suffering from emphysema because of the 20 years he was smoking. It's painful to watch him get out of breath going up stairs and to know he'll need an oxygen tank in future, before eventually being confined to bed 24/7. I'm too selfish to be with someone that might need that type of care in the not-so-distant future.
Curious-One Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 Here is a easy way to put it for me If i see a girl that i consider a 10 and i see her smoking she drops down to a 7.5...Not that i will not date her but her value goes down dramatically
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