VeronicaVry Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 Hi, I broke up with my bf 3 weeks ago and just started NC 6 days ago without letting him know....Since then he has emailed me 4 times without me replying....It is so hard! We broke up with each other because we both are in really difficult places in our lifes, he has had to move back with his parents in another country and I dont know where I will end up atm...But we still love one another. Anyway, he is emailing me constantly, attaching poems and other things...It's so hard! I want to break NC, at the same time I know I shouldn't because I dont know what to say to him....And he has not said he misses me or wants me back....I think how it is now is that we both feel confused...But all I want is for him to suggest us to get back together and figure the distance out(one of us moving) but..... I am so miserable....Thinking about him every other minute....
Soul Bear Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 If he is emailing you poems and things like that, and is in touch every day.... Seems like he still has a soft spot for you. Why dont YOU suggest getting back together????? After reading your post you were the one who broke up with him?! I wish my ex thought the same as you did.
robinincarolina Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 I am an avid fan of no contact, but your case may be different. Soul Bear, by the way, one of your previous post inspired me to open up and me and my ex are back together and I am in the clouds. Can't thank you enough. (I did use a lot of no contact though) Think my advice and yours was a good combo in my case. Again thanks. You have nothing to lose. If you broke up with him, you may have hurt his pride. There are exceptions to every rule, I say in your case go for it. At least test the waters and reply.
Soul Bear Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 ROBIN- That is EXCELLENT news. I was wondering how you were getting on. Im am very very very very happy for you, and that I have managed to help someone else. Im glad all my posting was not in vain!! I hope you can both communicate your partners what you need from each other properly. This goes for both of you- robin and vv!! Peace and Light SoulBear
Author VeronicaVry Posted May 27, 2009 Author Posted May 27, 2009 Souldbear and Robin, thanks for your answers...I am too scared tho, he hasn't really said anything about the relationship in the last emails apart from asking me not to mention other guys as it will hurt him too much. Thing is it's difficult. He has already said that he doesnt want to get back together with me,but he has said that becuase of his current sitaution(basicly being job less for over half a year) he doesnt want to be w anyone... I think he wants to keep it on friendly terms and I dont want to be his friend but his partner....If you read my other posts you will understand...Maybe my pride is the one that's too hurt right now...Oh my...I am so depressed you know? And scared that he will meet someone..
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