V.Vixen Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 This place is a great way to get into men's heads regarding women and dating anonymously, so here goes... How important are looks to you?.. HONESTLY What does a woman have to do to get your attention, besides being attractive physically? Do you prefer to be pursued, or do the pursuing when it comes to women? Is a shy woman a turn on or off? What about an extremely outgoing woman? Once you get a date with a woman, what is something that makes you want to stick around for more dates? What can a woman do on a date that has you running for the hills?
BCCA Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 How important are looks to you?.. HONESTLY Very. Initially, this is the sole reason most guys are attracted. Sure, after getting to know someone, they can be more/less attractive based off their personality, but looks are definitely important. Dont believe anyone that says otherwise What does a woman have to do to get your attention, besides being attractive physically? Be someone easy to talk to, friendly, and seemingly happy. It would help if we liked the same things, could carry on a conversation easily, and all that, but initially, just be approachable. Do you prefer to be pursued, or do the pursuing when it comes to women? It would be great if I felt like waiting to be pursued is realistic, but Im a guy, and its not, so I do the pursuing. Like I said though, I wouldnt object to being pursued, and if a guy is interested, I dont think most would mind. Is a shy woman a turn on or off? What about an extremely outgoing woman? In either case, as long as its not an extreme, it shouldnt be a big deal. No one wants to date the quiet girl sitting in the corner, or the drunk chick yelling at your best friend, though. Once you get a date with a woman, what is something that makes you want to stick around for more dates? If we have a good converstion, she seemed to like or at least pretend to like the same things, makes me laugh, and doesnt invite me over to her place at the end of the night. What can a woman do on a date that has you running for the hills? Ask for assurances about what I feel (are you having fun?), talks about her ex's, admits to cheating/generally skanking it up, has a drug problem, is a virgin, talks about kids/marrige on the first 2-3 dates, or is just plain annoying/stupid/crude.
samspade Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 Great questions! How important are looks to you?.. HONESTLY Very. They are the first thing I notice - I'm a guy. However! I'd rather have a moderately cute woman with a great personality and who's fun in bed, than a hot woman who's a beyotch and is terrible at sex. So - looks may turn my head, but wit and talent will keep me interested. What does a woman have to do to get your attention, besides being attractive physically? If a woman smiles back, that's a great opening. Don't look away - hold eye contact for a little bit. Do you prefer to be pursued, or do the pursuing when it comes to women? This is tricky. I like to pursue initially, but the best feeling is when the woman is the one chasing a little. It's a delicate balance, however. The best relationships have a natural give and take in this regard. Is a shy woman a turn on or off? What about an extremely outgoing woman? I would much rather have an outgoing woman than a shy one. If by "extremely outgoing" you mean type A, like an actress, comedienne, etc., I might hesitate. One thing I avoid is attention whores - women who need attention from many people at all times. Once you get a date with a woman, what is something that makes you want to stick around for more dates? A willingness to flirt and build sexual tension without spoiling it. And a quality kiss. What can a woman do on a date that has you running for the hills? Texting or taking calls...bringing a friend...complaining relentlessly about her exes....complaining about or blaming men....showing up ridiculously late without a courtesy call...revealing she is in fact engaged...oh, and discussing colonics. That happened to me once.
kizik Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 I'm too lazy to do the quote thing, but let me just say that if that's you in the avatar, you don't need to worry about anything
zhsoj Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 How important are looks to you?.. HONESTLY Not terribly important. I do have a type; that I just barely have a clue about though. When I do see it I recognize it, but it's hard to nail down exactly and most certainly doesn't follow the popular type. What does a woman have to do to get your attention, besides being attractive physically? Be kind, especially to me Do you prefer to be pursued, or do the pursuing when it comes to women? It would be great to be pursued. I'm not sure I'd know what to do if someone just came up to me and asked me out though as it's never happened... Is a shy woman a turn on or off? What about an extremely outgoing woman? Extremely outgoing can be a turnoff when they are loud. But then maybe that has something to do with me being shy and quiet myself. Shy isn't a turnoff exactly, but it can make it very difficult to figure out if they are interested. i.e. shy seems unlikely to be able to reciprocate interest. Extremely shy would likely be impossible to figure out though. Once you get a date with a woman, what is something that makes you want to stick around for more dates? Well... Assuming interest and it seems reciprocated... Just being friendly. What can a woman do on a date that has you running for the hills? Very rude to me or staff (if we go out to eat or something). Basically overly self-involved.
Author V.Vixen Posted May 27, 2009 Author Posted May 27, 2009 I'm too lazy to do the quote thing, but let me just say that if that's you in the avatar, you don't need to worry about anything It's me. An older pic (I might look different now, not sure), but I still have some issues because of being shy... believe it or not! Thank you for thinking other wise though!
loveslife Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 How important are looks to you?.. HONESTLY Not terribly important. I do have a type; that I just barely have a clue about though. When I do see it I recognize it, but it's hard to nail down exactly and most certainly doesn't follow the popular type. What does a woman have to do to get your attention, besides being attractive physically? Be kind, especially to me That's so sweet! I love that answer!! What can a woman do on a date that has you running for the hills? Very rude to me or staff (if we go out to eat or something). Basically overly self-involved. I remember reading someplace that you should pay attention to how your date treats the waitstaff, because that's how they'll eventually treat you when they're no longer on their best behavior.
Sam Spade Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 This place is a great way to get into men's heads regarding women and dating anonymously, so here goes... How important are looks to you?.. HONESTLY What does a woman have to do to get your attention, besides being attractive physically? Do you prefer to be pursued, or do the pursuing when it comes to women? Is a shy woman a turn on or off? What about an extremely outgoing woman? Once you get a date with a woman, what is something that makes you want to stick around for more dates? What can a woman do on a date that has you running for the hills? Whoaa, take it easy here... Honestly, looks are not that important. Not to be misunderstood: i would not date a fat or otherwuse unattractive girl. But, attractive is actually a pretty generous and flexible concept. Once my minimum treshold for attractiveness is met, (the possibility of) any marginal improvements don't matter that much and I', quite content and don't care if there is a hotter girl out there for me. There probably is, but why deal with the hassle. Moreover, beyond the "minimum attractiveness treshold" other personality qualities actually come into play and trump marginal improvements in hotness. An extremely outgoing woman is an extremely annoying woman. What makes me want to go on more dates is above all if the girl seems sane, mellow, and relaxed. Some sense of self and life's priorities, and we can discuss babies in a few years .
neowulf Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 How important are looks to you?.. HONESTLY Very, but probably not in the way a lot of women think. I see a lot of text-book good looking women every day. Then you'll come across "her". There's something about her. Her hair, her skin. Her smile. Her sense of style. Something. I'm completely hooked and I can't take my eyes off her. So yes, it's more to do with "type" than anything else. What does a woman have to do to get your attention, besides being attractive physically? If she's intelligent, well spoken, friendly and *interesting* (to me), I'm usually hooked. Nothing does it for me like a woman I can honestly respect. Do you prefer to be pursued, or do the pursuing when it comes to women? Depends on how attracted I am to the girl in question. But as a rule, if I'm that into her anyways, chances are I'll be the one chasing. Is a shy woman a turn on or off? What about an extremely outgoing woman? Not really no. Much like the others here, I find the extremes difficult. If she's so shy that she refuses to talk or if she's screaming at the top of her lungs making a scene... yeah, no. Once you get a date with a woman, what is something that makes you want to stick around for more dates? A click. Best way I can put it. We connect at some level. Maybe it's how easily the conversation flowed, maybe it's that we share a lot of similar values. Maybe it's just a relaxed feeling of being with each other that makes it feel natural. What ever it is, it makes me want to see more of her. What can a woman do on a date that has you running for the hills? Ignorance and bigotry are huge turn offs. If she's shallow, rude or crude in any way. If she's disrespectful. These are all huge red flags.
Glenn Quagmire Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 How important are looks to you?.. HONESTLY 100%. Because I likely wouldn't even bother to get to know her if I wasn't attracted to her. Her appearance means everything. What does a woman have to do to get your attention, besides being attractive physically? That's it. Be pretty. Do you prefer to be pursued, or do the pursuing when it comes to women? Everyone says they prefer to be pursued but everyone NEEDS to pursue. Human beings want what they can't have. Is a shy woman a turn on or off? What about an extremely outgoing woman? Extremely outgoing is great for a one night stand, shy is the marrying type. Although, somewhere in between is usually ideal. Once you get a date with a woman, what is something that makes you want to stick around for more dates? The sex. What can a woman do on a date that has you running for the hills? Show too much interest.
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