Stardust82 Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 I have a problem. I'm jealous of my best friend. She's really quite wonderful, she's a good person, a great friend, she's done nothing wrong. I know this is all my problem. I work really hard, I haven't been able to get ahead at all. I hate saying this, I don't think I have an entitlement problem or anything...maybe I do. I don't know. She got a job right out of college after the first interview and I've been going to interviews since 2005, still temping. She gets promotions, I get applications. She goes on vacations, I can't afford to go home to visit my siblings. I'm barely scraping along and I just want to feel like I can succeed at something. She's so nice and I'm so jealous. What is wrong with me? How do I make these feelings go away?? She's done nothing wrong and all I seem to do is make myself upset inside. I know feeling like this is counter-productive and it's doing nothing but making myself gloomy. If anybody knows how to fix this, please, let me know.
kizik Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 Jealousy is just an external projection of insecurity and self-hatred. What kind of things do you like to do? My guess is that you are a wonderful young woman with many interests of her own. Instead of focusing on how great she is, why not really make an effort to love yourself? Self-affirmations are a good way to start. Take the time to sit down and write ten things you like about yourself. Things you love to do and are good at. People in your life whom you love and who love you - family, friends, maybe an S.O.?
Author Stardust82 Posted August 17, 2009 Author Posted August 17, 2009 this was really good advice. thanks. i've been trying to write down things about me that i like when i'm down and this has helped a lot.
shaunwu Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Hi Stardust, Spend more time looking at your inner self. You and your friend are both different individuals. Instead of being jealousy, why not aspire to be like her? Keep telling yourself you want to be as successful as her. Work on your strengths instead and make use of them. In no time, you succeed in your own ways.
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