Jackson24 Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 My girlfriend kept the necklace her recent ex gave to her. What's more is she has a relationship ring with another ex's (who she had a very serious relationship with less than a year ago) name inscribed in it. She doesn't wear these things, just has them in her room. It doesn't drive me crazy or anything; I just want to know what I should think of this. preferably the woman's perspective.
Sam Spade Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 Many girls do that. I personally think it is whack, but they do. Beats me why, but don't care as long as there is no interaction or pining over the ex. On the other hand, I, and evedy guy I know have destroyed everything an ex has ever given us . But, girls don't operate that way, let's leave it at that. It is probably innocuous.
lora22 Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 It doesn't mean anything. For me, in general, gifts of jewelry from past bfs are not sentimental or anything; I still occasionally wear pieces exs had given me, and it doesn't mean I'm thinking about him or anything like that. The only two pieces of jewelry I've either put away or gotten rid of are a claddaugh ring and a promise ring, and for both of those (given by two separate bfs) my reason for putting them away was that I came to associate them as symbols of possession, rather than gifts of love.
tkgirl Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 Many girls do that. I personally think it is whack, but they do. Beats me why, but don't care as long as there is no interaction or pining over the ex. On the other hand, I, and evedy guy I know have destroyed everything an ex has ever given us . But, girls don't operate that way, let's leave it at that. It is probably innocuous. yep, I think guys and girls must be different on this... I know I've kept a lot of things my ex's have given me... mostly things like jewelry or other "gifts". Not that they really mean anything to me now and it's been years since I've even seen or talked to these guys... it's just that I'd feel weird to just throw these things away. Or maybe when I'm feeling down I'll see the cute little teddy bear that an ex gave to me... tucked away in my closet... but it will remind me of when he gave it to me, how it made me feel etc... but really nothing to do with my feelings for him now... more like a "sentimental" thing. Does that make any sense? If she's not flaunting these things in front of you, like "look what so-and-so gave me" then it shouldn't be a problem... like I wouldn't worry about it if I were you.
BCCA Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 Every girl I've dated has kept most everything, including cards/pictures/notes/, from past boyfriends. Means nothing, thats just how they are. I agree, I completely destroyed everything any ex has ever given me. lol
loveslife Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 I have kept most gifts from exes. It means nothing.
DarkestDreams Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 I have kept most gifts from exes. It means nothing. Same here. I've kept everything from everyone, so that when I'll be 80 and partially senile, I can lay back and reminisce about the "good ol' days". It's harmless.
loveslife Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 Same here. I've kept everything from everyone, so that when I'll be 80 and partially senile, I can lay back and reminisce about the "good ol' days". It's harmless. Hahaha yeah that's pretty much the gist.
Sam Spade Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 There is an "Everybody loves Raymond" episode going on right now, where it turned out that a sizeable chunk of their house furnishings is in fact presents from Deborah's old boyfriends .
norajane Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 We might get rid of some things from exes, but women rarely get rid of jewelry. Anyway, here's a thread you might of interest: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t189296/
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 Weird. The two pieces of jewelry I got from my XH (wedding/engagement ring and an anniversary ring), I sold as soon as we were done. LOL I wanted to move on with my life and symbolically, it helped. It sent a big message to myself and to the Universe that I was ready to move on. I don't see any point hanging onto stuff that has sentimental value like that. I also deleted all pictures on my computer that had anything to do with him.
Lucky_One Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 If it sparkles or gleams, then I still have it. You get pennies on the dollar for pawning, and at the end of the day, gemstones are just gemstones.
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