lora22 Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 This is probably more of a rant than anything. Yesterday I broke up with the bf (he disrespected me, lied to me..http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t189823/ - that's the story basically); I told him exactly why I was breaking up with him, he argued with me a little/tried to defend himself; I said nope, you disrespected me, end of story, and left....but then today he texted me several times, just normal chatty texts, not "I want you back texts" - but the kind of thing he sent me when we were together...and when I logged into my gmail he started a convo with me!!! WTF?!!!
Enema Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 To use a fishing analogy: He cast the lure. Did you take the bait?
Author lora22 Posted May 26, 2009 Author Posted May 26, 2009 Nope, I don't remain "friends" with exes, and he knows this about me (though I didn't bring this up when I broke up with him); therefore I didn't respond to any of the texts, and I blocked him on gchat without responding.
Soul Bear Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 guess he was hoping it would blow over and you guys would work out your differences. He obviously doesnt think its over between you.... Is he friends with any of his other exes? Thats odd behaviour and I would be suspicious.... Dont act on it just yet. Have a think if you want him to repair things and how it could happen and work. Your terms not his. Trust is a big factor in a relationship. If you have totally had enough then I would continue as you are and cease all contact after having a chat with him, nicely, and explain why you are leaving and make it clear to him WHY so as he may learn from his mistakes and carry over his lessons, whether it be with you down the line or someone else. Its the honest way to do it. Of course, he will have to want to change for that to work.
Author lora22 Posted May 26, 2009 Author Posted May 26, 2009 It's definitely over - he had three opportunities to fix the problem, and he never changed - me breaking up with him over it shouldn't be his "wake up call." He's 32; I'm 25, he should know better by now. I made very clear to him why I was breaking up with him, and I'm not interested in second chances over this particular issue (lying is too big of a deal). Should I explain to him why I don't want to be friends? I guess I feel like it's so obvious, but maybe not. I was just so blown away that after I broke up with him he could try to talk to me as though nothing had happened. I don't get it.
Author lora22 Posted May 27, 2009 Author Posted May 27, 2009 Is he friends with any of his other exes? Thats odd behaviour and I would be suspicious.... Wow, I feel really dumb, because I never even thought about this - NO, he's not friends with any of his other exes! He's on good terms with all of them, but not friends. Not even his ex ex, who he dated for about 2 yrs (or 3, something like that); she's either engaged or recently got married too, and I know that they've met up with mutual friends once or twice, but only recently, and only when her hubby was there too. MAN, now I'm pissed at him all over again.
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