Nikki Sahagin Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 Since the breakup 4 of my exes friends have been really heavily flirting with me. I'm not sure whether its something he has asked them to do to catch me out...or whether its genuine reactions.....but I find it really odd...and if it is genuine...it kind of justifies why my ex was sometimes possessive and jealous of my friendships with his friends. I do often think of myself as, I hate to say it, a '1 of the lads' type girls, as in i'd rather have a laugh and a joke with the guys than sit in the corner quiet focusing on looking sexy, but I find this very weird, and i'm not sure how to proceed, should I tell them its dissrespectful to my ex? Play along? Be weary its a kind of trap? Has anyone else experienced this?
Soul Bear Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 This one is simple. Obviously your pretty good looking, have a good sense of humor, your not one of those annoying girly girls (no offence to girly girls, but if you would rather wear high heels than boots or wellies in a field.....) who sits in the corner as you say.. ex made the mistake of leaving you and his friends now think they have left it long enough to try their luck... So you are spot on with ''justifies why my ex was sometimes possessive and jealous of my friendships with his friends'' Thats exactly it.Dont let him leaving you make you feel like your undesirable.If I were you, I would just play along with it. Maybe when your ex heres his friends talk of liking you it will drive him nuts and he will kick himself for being imiture enough to throw away a good thing.
lora22 Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 It's probably nearly impossible to guess what his friends' motivations are, especially without more information. Personally, as long as they're just flirting, and not actually hitting on you, I'd go along with it, it sounds harmless. I think in most cases though, friends of the ex should be off limits for dating/hooking up, especially so close after a break up. Soul Bear, I loooove you sig!
Soul Bear Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 I agree with Lora My sig holds true! My ex just stepped in it barefoot!!
lora22 Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 My sig holds true! My ex just stepped in it barefoot!! hehe, I saw that thread!!
fabulous_chk Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 Since the breakup 4 of my exes friends have been really heavily flirting with me.... i'm not sure how to proceed, should I tell them its dissrespectful to my ex? Play along? Be weary its a kind of trap? Has anyone else experienced this? Who cares about your ex?!!! Nobody lol. If I were you I'll have my lil bit of fun! Just flirt back, get your confidence back, if you're the "one of the lads" girl, change it up and be sexy. Step out of character and challenge yourself...this is the time for exploration and change. Buy sexy dresses and go on fun dates. Let them buy you drinks, wine and dine you....this is the fun of being single. You're accountable to nobody. Freedom is good.
notalone Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 I gotta agree with Lora. And why would four of your ex's mates flirt with you at the same..doesnt that strike you as a bit odd?? But more importantly, do you like any of them?
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