WineCountry Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 I would have him seek some legal advice as to what his options are regarding finding out if he is the father of this child. If she told him the child is his and yet is refusing to take a DNA, i'd be suspicious. If she says he is the father, did she put his name on the child's birth certificate? And if the child IS his, and she is being truthful about him not having to be responsible, is she willing to let him sign away his rights? I know you say he does not want that, but i'd just be curious as to how truthful she is being. See, now the game playing begans. She tells him she is pregnant, knows he wants to be in the child's life if its his, but yet refuses to cooperate with him on DNA. I would have him speak to someone about this. He shouldnt let it go and just let her handle things, because she could come back three years from now and go "oh by the way, you owe me three yrs back child support". Best to get things cleared up now, so he knows where he stands. And yes, she WAS wrong for not telling him that she was no longer on BC. But, that will not matter in court. He is responsible.
Shygirl15 Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 I think both men and women have the responsibility to ensure unwanted pregnancy does not happen. I have always stood by condoms, however my BF told me he is infertile so I threw them all away. 2 months later, that's not the case. Whose fault was that? I don't know.
BubblyPopcorn Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 They are both responsible as they both consented to it. I understand he’s not ready to be a father, but if she decides to have the baby, the baby should be taken care of regardless of whether or not it’s “fair”. What’s fair is to the child at this point, it didn’t ask to be made. I think too the father should have equal rights regarding the child, unless he’s a harmful influence to the child. I don’t think he has a right to tell her to abort though it’s her body so that is ultimately her choice. I have never had unprotected sex unless in a committed relationship and I was on BC, and if I had become pregnant I would not have had to worry about the child being uncared for parentally or financially. Last year I was very irresponsible, we both were, but fortunately nothing happened and I am much more careful now after having put myself in that situation.
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