sean22 Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 My ex broke up with me a few months ago. Shes going overseas in about 2 weeks time, for i think 7 months. Anyway shes having a going away party on friday night and i'm not sure if i should go or not. I still have feelings for her and i've been NC for just over 3 weeks now and i think im starting to move on. I was thinking i should just send her a goodbye text instead, but i think i will feel bad if i dont go. I know i could also just not break NC, but isnt this a situation where i should? i mean like what if her plane crashes or something? Hmm can anyone help what i should do?
Ronni_W Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 It's not so much what you "should" or "should not" do -- it is what you WANT to do, and your motivation for doing it. I'm assuming that you've been invited to her going-away. If it is that you WANT to go and wish her good luck in person, that is kind and thoughtful. But you also have to be kind to yourself -- what if she treats you kind of "rudely" at the party, ignoring you or whatever? What if you find out there's some other guy in her life? That is, make sure that you'll be able to handle as many potential scenarios as your mind can envision. And yeah...if you're just going so that you don't have to feel guilty if her plane crashes, then that's a valid reason, too. Of course, now you gotta start praying that it does NOT crash, cos otherwise you're gonna have even BIGGER guilt about that, yes?
Odyssey Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 Hey Sean22, My situation is kinda opposite to yours. She broke up with me, and today I found out she's coming to my work leaving party this Friday! TBH i really don't know how i would react - I'm hoping she won't follow through and drop out at the last minute because I've been doing fine with 10 days of NC so far. If she ignores me in front of everyone at the party then it's going to be awkward me. But if I stick to NC and ignore her, then that will be strange too. Either way I'm going to feel obligated with social pressure to be polite and chat. I have no idea why she would even go to my party. Hasn't she hurt me enough? Maybe she wants to rub it in my face some more. Anyway, my advice since you two broke up recently, is don't bother going - just send her a text or something.
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