lordWilhelm Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 My girlfriend and I have been going out for the past six months. We're both in grad school and it's been wonderful to see her every day while the academic year has been in session, but now she's away for the summer. She's an anthropologist and her fieldwork can take her away for longer periods of time in the future. I look at this lack of physical contact as an opportunity to add a new dimension to our relationship and a chance to figure out how comfortable we are with extended periods of separation. I'm entirely new to LDR and although it's a bit scary, I have a good feeling about this. I'm looking for suggestions on things that we can do to keep our relationship strong while away. What are some things that I can do to show her I care and I am thinking about her? Would love to hear some ideas that worked for others One thing that's worried me is my telephone conversation skills. I find it's a lot easier to talk in person, and when I'm on the phone I can be very monosyllabic. And I don't do this only with her, it's the same when I talk to my family. I often find myself with nothing to say, and in so doing I feel I'm putting pressure on her to say something. Any tips on how to make phone conversations flow better, especially in an LDR context?
KikiW Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 Ask what she's doing throughout her day, tell her you are proud of what she's accomplishing, ask her what she has coming up. If you have the option, text her. If you are having trouble keeping up a phone conversation, then sending a couple texts throughout the day could be helpful. They don't need to be long or gushy, just a "hey I am thinking about you." or "I just saw XYZ and it reminded me of you".
Rollercoasterr Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 I'm the same way about the phone, but it seems to not matter when I'm on the phone with him. I'm like a little chatter box. But if someone else calls me I'm almost on the verge of hanging up on them without warning because I just hate it and can never find anything to talk about. People really must think I take more showers than anyone on earth because that's always my excuse to get off the phone. Just keep your lines of communication open. Don't worry about the quality of the call all the time. Just enjoy hearing her voice and asking how her day was. If you have the address to where she is, send her things. Depending on what kind of anthropologist she is, this could be really fun. One of my cousins is an anthropologist and when she was away once for a dinosaur dig her husband actually sent her a stuffed dino and pinned a note to it saying that he thought it might be vital information because there were dinosaurs in their backyard and she should come home immediately. It was very cute and all the other people she was with just couldn't wait to meet him after that. As far as I know the dinosaur still sits in their house with that note pinned to his chest.
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