soserious1 Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 Just a quick gratitude to you guys. I've come to really enjoy this community, I've printed up a lot of posts to read in the quiet of the night when I'm able to reflect on things. Finally a lot of my anger at my ex is starting to lift, well at least enough so that I can admit that being that angry was frightening to me and that fear probably made things even worse. I have a long road ahead but at least I can at least see the road in front of me now. I thank you for your support and your patience with me
Reggie Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 Soserious. You have good smarts and the ability to support your positions. You were done a terrible injustice and your anger and hurt are very normal. One day , you will see how lucky you are to be out. And, maybe your XH will get hit by a truck and you will be out from under.
bentnotbroken Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 I guess I know anger is a part of grieving, so for me you were doing what you were supposed to be doing. It really does get easier. It may take awhile, but it really does. Then watch out!
GorillaTheater Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 Well, as you can attest I'm often abysmally short on patience, but I'm very glad that things are starting to give and that, emotionally, you're moving on. Like Reggie said, you've been screwed over in a way that makes me angry to read about and once again I apologize for presuming to dictate how long and in what way you grieve. Here's to bright skies and long horizons.
marlena Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 I hope this doesn't mean that you are going to stop posting. I like your posts. Anyway, I am glad that you are feeling better.
Author soserious1 Posted May 26, 2009 Author Posted May 26, 2009 I hope this doesn't mean that you are going to stop posting. I like your posts. Anyway, I am glad that you are feeling better. Oh no, I've come to like many of you here and actually worry about a few of you:) No, I'll continue here but am trying to focus more on the next step.. figuring out what I did/didnt do to cause the failure of my marriage and in thinking about what I want from life in the future. I'm preparing now for a trip to Costa Rica for some field work, my posting will be infrequent then because I'll be busy and wireless access spotty at times.
marlena Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 I'm preparing now for a trip to Costa Rica for some field work, my posting will be infrequent then because I'll be busy and wireless access spotty at times. Treat yourself to some fun while you are there. You so desreve the best.
angie2443 Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 I have a long road ahead but at least I can at least see the road in front of me now. I thank you for your support and your patience with me This is great! I'm so glad you're doing better as I was worried about you for a while. You've been through a lot and the fact that you're pulling through is a positive thing for people to see here:).
pelicanpreacher Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 If this action wasn't addressed in the final divorce decree then what you ought to do is start a corporation, assign yourself 100% of the stock, and change your earning status from a W-2 employee to a 1099 self-employed contractor. Legally assess a majority of the income you currently derive to the corporation and allow it to pay for your lifestyle while relegating only the court ordered alimony+minimal personal expenses + taxes as actual income for yourself. He nor his lawyer(s) will be able do anything to stop you from repeatedly lowering your personal annual income every year in this manner or retaking him to court to reduce his alimony because he won't be able to afford the legal costs of fighting this action after living so "high on the hog" of his ill-gotten windfall since the divorce. Sooner or later he'll only be left with a percentage of your Social Security Allowance to live on and forced to accept Medicade/Medicare in lieu of the coverage you've been ordered to provide because your corporation doesn't offer medical insurance like your previous employer did which requires you to self-insure on the paltry income you now show on current tax returns. If this works and he shows up on your doorstep one day wailing, whining, and complaining then laugh in his face and tell him to pound sand, his girlfriend, and his right hand from now on! Seek legal advice on this strategy and tell us what you've found.
pelicanpreacher Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 If this action wasn't addressed in the final divorce decree then what you ought to do is start a corporation, assign yourself 100% of the stock, and change your earning status from a W-2 employee to a 1099 self-employed contractor. Legally assess a majority of the income you currently derive to the corporation and allow it to pay for your lifestyle while relegating only the court ordered alimony+minimal personal expenses + taxes as actual income for yourself. He nor his lawyer(s) will be able do anything to stop you from repeatedly lowering your personal annual income every year in this manner or retaking him to court to reduce his alimony because he won't be able to afford the legal costs of fighting this action after living so "high on the hog" of his ill-gotten windfall since the divorce. Sooner or later he'll only be left with a percentage of your Social Security Allowance to live on and forced to accept Medicade/Medicare in lieu of the coverage you've been ordered to provide because your corporation won't offer medical insurance like your previous employer did which requires you to self-insure on the paltry income you now show on current tax returns. If this works and he shows up on your doorstep one day wailing, whining, and complaining then laugh in his face and tell him to pound sand, his gold digging girlfriend, and his right hand from now on! Seek legal advice on this strategy and tell us what you've found.
pelicanpreacher Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 If this action wasn't addressed in the final divorce decree then what you ought to do is start a corporation, assign yourself 100% of the stock, and change your earning status from a W-2 employee to a 1099 self-employed contractor. Legally assess a majority of the income you currently derive to the corporation and allow it to pay for your lifestyle while relegating only the court ordered alimony+minimal personal expenses + taxes as actual income for yourself. He nor his lawyer(s) will be able do anything to stop you from repeatedly lowering your personal annual income every year in this manner or retaking him to court to reduce his alimony because he won't be able to afford the legal costs of fighting this action after living so "high on the hog" of his ill-gotten windfall since the divorce. Sooner or later he'll only be left with a percentage of your Social Security Allowance to live on and forced to accept Medicade/Medicare in lieu of the coverage you've been ordered to provide because your corporation doesn't offer medical insurance like your previous employer did which requires you to self-insure on the paltry income you now show on current tax returns. If this works and he shows up on your doorstep one day wailing, whining, and complaining then laugh in his face and tell him to pound sand, his girlfriend, and his right hand from now on! Seek legal advice on this strategy and tell us what you've found.
DNU1 Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 SS1: I want to thank YOU for being there for me as I struggle to understand all that is going on in my life and my bat-poop-crazy STBxWWs head. You and Reggie and countless others have really helped me move forward! Thank YOU!
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