Lisagirly Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 You are basically secretly getting back at them. In addition aren't you face with less guilt/remorse feelings since they did it first?
missdependant Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 Dumb idea. Don't turn your relationship into a game. If he cheated on you and you forgive him, then there is no need to "get back" at anyone. If you can't forgive him, then break up. Simple as that. It's not a healthy way to go about a relationship.
Citizen Erased Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 I've got an idea: grow up. If you have to revenge cheat back at someone, wtf are you doing still with the guy?
Author Lisagirly Posted May 26, 2009 Author Posted May 26, 2009 Dumb idea. Don't turn your relationship into a game. If he cheated on you and you forgive him, then there is no need to "get back" at anyone. If you can't forgive him, then break up. Too late, I just did with his cousin, taking away his virginity at the same time. I guess I meant when you actually do it, doesn't it at some point make you somewhat relieved? You don't get to feel that much of sorrow for them no more.
Author Lisagirly Posted May 26, 2009 Author Posted May 26, 2009 If you have to revenge cheat back at someone, wtf are you doing still with the guy? But see now I feel much better than before. Now I will not bring his cheating no more and so we can work out our relationship.
missdependant Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 It made you feel better? How? All you've done is degraded yourself and sunken to his level.
Citizen Erased Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 But see now I feel much better than before. Now I will not bring his cheating no more and so we can work out our relationship. He will find out. You screwed his cousin. If you're going to cheat at the very least be smart about it.
missdependant Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 And if it made you feel better already, why would you need to ask if it would make you feel better? Apparently you already know the answer. I'd say you're just as worthless as him though.
Author Lisagirly Posted May 26, 2009 Author Posted May 26, 2009 He will find out. You screwed his cousin. If you're going to cheat at the very least be smart about it. Nope it's not like his cousin is going to be dumb enough to tell him besides my boyfriend and others still think that he's still a virgin.
lora22 Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 I don't know the whole story - however, my first thought on reading this thread was "his poor cousin!!!!!" I hope his cousin doesn't get hurt from this selfish, vindictive behavior.
Citizen Erased Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 Nope it's not like his cousin is going to be dumb enough to tell him besides my boyfriend and others still think that he's still a virgin. He won't tell your boyfriend but he will tell someone. Guys do that, especially when they're no longer virgins. They feel the need to share it with everyone. Only a matter of time before the news gets to your boyfriend.
Author Lisagirly Posted May 26, 2009 Author Posted May 26, 2009 And if it made you feel better already, why would you need to ask if it would make you feel better? Apparently you already know the answer. I'd say you're just as worthless as him though. I know you won't get my point but see it made me feel better in the way that I'm no longer mad at my boyfriend. Now I will be focusing on my relationship.
amaysngrace Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 If he cares so little to cheat on you and you care so little to cheat on him then what kind of relationship is that? It sounds like trailer trash.
lora22 Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 The best revenge would have been dumping his butt, finding someone better who doesn't cheat, and being ridiculously happy without him.
Author Lisagirly Posted May 26, 2009 Author Posted May 26, 2009 Ok don't get me wrong I still feel somewhat guilt but not as remorseful as it would be had he not cheated on me. Anyways I want this to work out and I don't plan on cheating again. So can this work out without him ever finding out about it and pretend it didn't happen??
missdependant Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 It sounds like trailer trash. LOL, yes it does... Jerry Springer, for sure!!
lora22 Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 Is there a chance your bf won't find out you cheated on him with his cousin? Slim at best; more likely it's guaranteed he'll find out. If you didn't want to get caught, well...by screwing his cousin, you screwed yourself. Will your relationship work out? Absolutely not. You two haven't dealt with the real issue, which is why he cheated in the first place. Your relationship lacks honesty, committment, and maturity.
missdependant Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 Ok don't get me wrong I still feel somewhat guilt but not as remorseful as it would be had he not cheated on me. Anyways I want this to work out and I don't plan on cheating again. So can this work out without him ever finding out about it and pretend it didn't happen?? Why do you ask for advice when you aren't going to listen to it anyway?
missdependant Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 My advice is to break it off. He WILL find out sooner or later. And if he doesn't, you're going to be living with guilt and the remorse will only continue to grow stronger.. regardless if he cheated or not. Obviously, neither of you can handle a REAL relationship built around mature love and trust. Your relationship will turn into a war-zone with a structure built around cheating and playing childish games. Your relationship is going nowhere. Grow-up. THEN, try and be in a relationship.
Author Lisagirly Posted May 26, 2009 Author Posted May 26, 2009 You two haven't dealt with the real issue, which is why he cheated in the first place. At that time he told it was because of our arguments, me hanging up the phone when I got mad at him and didn't wanna hear something and when he felt I was not being affectionated towards him. I do admit that 7 months into our relationship I never once say ''I love you'' thought I wanted to say it but I waited to long. When I was finally opening up, being less confrontational about stupid things and tell my true emotions is when I he cheated, thus I was back in my shell again. It takes me a while to open up.
amaysngrace Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 At that time he told it was because of our arguments, me hanging up the phone when I got mad at him and didn't wanna hear something and when he felt I was not being affectionated towards him. I do admit that 7 months into our relationship I never once say ''I love you'' thought I wanted to say it but I waited to long. When I was finally opening up, being less confrontational about stupid things and tell my true emotions is when I he cheated, thus I was back in my shell again. It takes me a while to open up. Oh so he blames his cheating on you? Creepy. You didn't do anything wrong for him to cheat. That was his choice. I really hate when people cheat and then try to make their mate feel inadequate like it's their fault they got cheated on. It's really wrong.
lora22 Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 At that time he told it was because of our arguments, me hanging up the phone when I got mad at him and didn't wanna hear something and when he felt I was not being affectionated towards him. I do admit that 7 months into our relationship I never once say ''I love you'' thought I wanted to say it but I waited to long. When I was finally opening up, being less confrontational about stupid things and tell my true emotions is when I he cheated, thus I was back in my shell again. It takes me a while to open up. Sorry, but that's his excuse for cheating, not the real reason. The reason for him cheating on you will focus on him and his actions, not on you and what you did/didn't do. Saying "I cheated on you because you hung up on me" (or whatever) is the most ridiculous thing I have heard in a long time. By blaming you for his actions he is simply not taking responsibily for what he did. He needs to grow a pair, and you both need to grow up.
Author Lisagirly Posted May 26, 2009 Author Posted May 26, 2009 Oh so he blames his cheating on you? Creepy. You didn't do anything wrong for him to cheat. That was his choice. I really hate when people cheat and then try to make their mate feel inadequate like it's their fault they got cheated on. It's really wrong. I know and when I was venting out and right on the verge of crying (but witholding it) he only stated how sorry he was, lol after I found enough evidence and the picture of them kissing. Sorry is not enough.
amaysngrace Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 I know and when I was venting out and right on the verge of crying (but witholding it) he only stated how sorry he was, lol after I found enough evidence and the picture of them kissing. Sorry is not enough. Well I'm glad you feel better then but I think you should be with someone who doesn't cheat on you. Your BF sounds like a big loser. I'm glad you did his cousin.
Author Lisagirly Posted May 26, 2009 Author Posted May 26, 2009 Sorry, but that's his excuse for cheating, not the real reason. The reason for him cheating on you will focus on him and his actions, not on you and what you did/didn't do. Saying "I cheated on you because you hung up on me" (or whatever) is the most ridiculous thing I have heard in a long time. By blaming you for his actions he is simply not taking responsibily for what he did. He needs to grow a pair, and you both need to grow up. He did stated how he felt at the time that he was confused and thought I didn't love him since I never once say ''I love you'' at the time and the other things I just mentioned. Bastard, just when I was ready to open up some more. In just weeks after I finally say ''I love you'' for the very first time when I find out what he did.
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