TerryTeardrop Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 OK long story short I cheated on my ex and am still with the girl I cheated with. I have told alot of lies to cover myself and feel bad about it. My ex outed me to to my gf and told her everything. I lied to get out of it and she ended up believeing me as my ex started sending me crazy texts telling me what a cheating liar I am so I convinced her my ex is crazy. I missed my ex and wanted her back so I tried all I could but she was too upset at me for the cheating. I love her and wanted her back really badly but it did not happen and now she has contacted my new gf again and told her what I have been doing! I am so annoyed even though I know i deserve it! Now my new gf has dumped me even though I have denied it all What can I do?
Enema Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 Move on. You've got no lasting future with either of those 2 women now. They both have you categorized in their heads as a liar / cheat. You'll have to find someone that doesn't know you yet. burn.
lofi_tokyo Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 Enema is right... it sounds like you need some time to just be independent and single. If you're sneaking around either woman, than neither is right for you. Give yourself some time to be your own person, without having to rely on the approval of women for a bit.
samspade Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 Sounds like the chickens came home to roost. Try not having a GF and sexing women as a single guy.
Trimmer Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 I cheated on my ex... am still with the girl I cheated with.... I have told alot of lies to cover myself... I lied to get out of it... I convinced her my ex is crazy... I missed my ex and wanted her back... now she has contacted my new gf again and told her what I have been doing... Now my new gf has dumped me even though I have denied it all So she dumped you for all the right reasons, even though you denied all of them? The nerve!!!
TaraMaiden Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 You could really actually start looking at your own behaviour and why you lie. The root of this problem is you. You are 'faulty'. So fix that first. And stop lying.
LovesHangover Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 Ok! Cheating and lying are not productive to a healthy relationship. Now, it is time for you to deal with yourself. Start by apologizing to these women who deserved better than you gave in the relationship. Next, spend all the time it takes developing yourself into a person who can establish and maintain a healthy relationship.
Soul Bear Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 Im not at all impressed with your behaviour. There is nothing worse than a cheat, but mix that with a liar???!! Call your current outcome Karma. If I was your ex I wouldnt take you back, and thats speaking from personal experience. Try and learn from your mistakes, stop playing the victim as you are quite obviously NOT the victim in this situation. It is your ex and and the girl you cheated on her with who are the victims. Listen to everyone above, they all gave you some good advice. Its up to you whether or not you take it and learn from it. If you dont, this will only happen again with the next person. Read what you wrote again, and pretend that your reading it from the other side of the fence, or from an outside POV. ..... What would you advise the OP to do, or what would you say to him? Good luck
GorillaTheater Posted May 27, 2009 Posted May 27, 2009 I see by previous posts that you're 39 or 40. You're too old to still be f*cking up like this so step back from both women and get your head right: figure out what it is about yourself that lends itself to cheating and lying. And either fix it or seek help in getting it fixed. Then, and only then, find a relationship with a new woman.
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