xpaperxcutx Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 you only want a relationship with one person yet when other people come along whose willing to give you their time, you brush them off?
Star Gazer Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 Can't say that I do. Ask yourself why you want a relationship with someone who does not want a relationship with you?
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 25, 2009 Author Posted May 25, 2009 Can't say that I do. Ask yourself why you want a relationship with someone who does not want a relationship with you? SG, you always know what's on my mind....
tkgirl Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 you only want a relationship with one person yet when other people come along whose willing to give you their time, you brush them off? unfortunately... yes. When I like someone, I like only them... even after the relationship has ended.. like now Can't say that I do. Ask yourself why you want a relationship with someone who does not want a relationship with you? I ask myself that... all the time. I just haven't come up with any good answers yet.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 25, 2009 Author Posted May 25, 2009 unfortunately... yes. When I like someone, I like only them... even after the relationship has ended.. like now I ask myself that... all the time. I just haven't come up with any good answers yet. what's going on with you, xpaperxcutx? No idea. I have guys at my door trying to make dates, and I'm feeling like blah. Not interested. I look at my phone occasionally waiting for a message. I surf LS for answers, yet I already knew it. I go out, yet I don't enjoy other's company.
tkgirl Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 No idea. I have guys at my door trying to make dates, and I'm feeling like blah. Not interested. I look at my phone occasionally waiting for a message. I surf LS for answers, yet I already knew it. I go out, yet I don't enjoy other's company. you know what's so funny... just last night I had this dream that my door bell rang. I ran to open it, thinking it just had to be my ex coming back to me. When I opened it, there were like 4 guys standing there... all of then super-UNappealing, with flowers etc. and wanting to take me out. Looked like nice guys... but! needless to say I was so disappointed. dreams are funny... Anyways, I think it comes down to wanting what we think we can't have. I know I deserve better than what the last guy I still think about gave me.. he even told me I deserve better! but I still miss him
MissViolet Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 Yeah I've experienced that before. I think it's because you can't have that person, that's what makes you want them even more than others.
dreamergrl Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 Well then... maybe it's a sign to take a break away from boys. A lot of people generally want what they can't have. But you're closing doors on healthy choices. Forget dating for a while. Do something fun with friends.
Star Gazer Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 No idea. I have guys at my door trying to make dates, and I'm feeling like blah. Not interested. I look at my phone occasionally waiting for a message. I surf LS for answers, yet I already knew it. I go out, yet I don't enjoy other's company. Yup, you do. You can't make anyone like/love you, Paper. You want to know what I, and many other LS posters think?? You need to STOP bouncing from date to date, from guy to guy. You need to stop trying to please everyone other than yourself, by fearing disappointment and rejection and doing everything you can to avoid the two. This means you need to STOP DATING, or trying to, until you learn to love yourself .
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 25, 2009 Author Posted May 25, 2009 you know what's so funny... just last night I had this dream that my door bell rang. I ran to open it, thinking it just had to be my ex coming back to me. When I opened it, there were like 4 guys standing there... all of then super-UNappealing, with flowers etc. and wanting to take me out. Looked like nice guys... but! needless to say I was so disappointed. dreams are funny... Anyways, I think it comes down to wanting what we think we can't have. I know I deserve better than what the last guy I still think about gave me.. he even told me I deserve better! but I still miss him Oh Tk.... I understand that feeling. I can wake up feeling refreshed these in the morning, but then the only words that often pop up unexpectedly are those two words " nowhere, really." And I would think to myself, why couldn't he have said " I don't know" or " I'm not sure", at least it wouldn't have been so honest and straightforward, and maybe left me a little hope.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 25, 2009 Author Posted May 25, 2009 Well then... maybe it's a sign to take a break away from boys. A lot of people generally want what they can't have. But you're closing doors on healthy choices. Forget dating for a while. Do something fun with friends. That's just it. I can only see them as friends, yet I know they like me too much for me to reciprocate. When I mean I go out I refer to it as hanging out, but then like this past Saturday, the guy told me " I thought it was a date". I was a bit shocked.
tkgirl Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 you know what's so funny... just last night I had this dream that my door bell rang. I ran to open it, thinking it just had to be my ex coming back to me. When I opened it, there were like 4 guys standing there... all of then super-UNappealing, with flowers etc. and wanting to take me out. Looked like nice guys... but! needless to say I was so disappointed. dreams are funny... Anyways, I think it comes down to wanting what we think we can't have. I know I deserve better than what the last guy I still think about gave me.. he even told me I deserve better! but I still miss him Yeah I've experienced that before. I think it's because you can't have that person, that's what makes you want them even more than others. Well then... maybe it's a sign to take a break away from boys. A lot of people generally want what they can't have. But you're closing doors on healthy choices. Forget dating for a while. Do something fun with friends. I'm sensing a theme here!
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 25, 2009 Author Posted May 25, 2009 Yup, you do. You can't make anyone like/love you, Paper. You want to know what I, and many other LS posters think?? You need to STOP bouncing from date to date, from guy to guy. You need to stop trying to please everyone other than yourself, by fearing disappointment and rejection and doing everything you can to avoid the two. This means you need to STOP DATING, or trying to, until you learn to love yourself . I no longer see them as dates really. I only ask them to go hang out with me in the city so we can go clubbing. That's about it. I hug when I say hello, but no kissing, no making out, no nothing. I don't even like staring into their eyes, and expect a sappy love look. Oh, and I keep to myself all week before I make plans for only the weekends. That's about it.
Star Gazer Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 That's just it. I can only see them as friends, yet I know they like me too much for me to reciprocate. When I mean I go out I refer to it as hanging out, but then like this past Saturday, the guy told me " I thought it was a date". I was a bit shocked. COME ON, Paper. Do you honestly think people of the opposite sex meet on FB or MS, for purposes of being only friends? You know better. You knew exactly what that meeting was about.
tkgirl Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 Oh Tk.... I understand that feeling. I can wake up feeling refreshed these in the morning, but then the only words that often pop up unexpectedly are those two words " nowhere, really." And I would think to myself, why couldn't he have said " I don't know" or " I'm not sure", at least it wouldn't have been so honest and straightforward, and maybe left me a little hope. ahhh... that darn "hope"! thing is.. there's always "hope", but sometimes we just don't see it or things don't happen the way we think they are supposed to or when we want them to. Not to keep talking about "my guy" but he came back to me the first time after 6 months of zero contact... I was shocked! then he came back again.. oh, and again... no wonder I have these dreams and keep thinking he could come back again! Now if I could only get him to stay!
Star Gazer Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 I no longer see them as dates really. I only ask them to go hang out with me in the city so we can go clubbing. That's about it. I hug when I say hello, but no kissing, no making out, no nothing. I don't even like staring into their eyes, and expect a sappy love look. Oh, and I keep to myself all week before I make plans for only the weekends. That's about it. Do you know how many "dates" you've had over the past month or so? YOU yourself called them dates. That's what I'm referring to. Also, you accepted the last guy's request for a second DATE because you didn't want to disappoint him. You said you'll wait until the day itself gets closer before you make up your mind. Now you're the one keeping someone else on a string. Unless you know for a FACT that the guy you're hanging out with has no sexual or romantic intentions (i.e., he's gay, he's married, he's your brother, etc.), stop seeing men for a while. Period. Figure out how to love - nay, LIKE! - yourself first.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 25, 2009 Author Posted May 25, 2009 COME ON, Paper. Do you honestly think people of the opposite sex meet on FB or MS, for purposes of being only friends? You know better. You knew exactly what that meeting was about. Never thought about it really. I thought it was a hangout to be honest. I really did. I don't like calling people I meet for the first time dates, it's stupid and rushing things. That's why I always call them hang outs or " meetings". God, I feel stupid. So they want dates? Eh.... but it's social networking. I thought it was about making friends.
dreamergrl Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 That's just it. I can only see them as friends, yet I know they like me too much for me to reciprocate. When I mean I go out I refer to it as hanging out, but then like this past Saturday, the guy told me " I thought it was a date". I was a bit shocked. I meant, like female friends. I'm sensing a theme here! For 1000 bonus points... is the theme.... (drum roll please)..... Wanting what you can't have?!?!?!?! I no longer see them as dates really. I only ask them to go hang out with me in the city so we can go clubbing. That's about it. I hug when I say hello, but no kissing, no making out, no nothing. I don't even like staring into their eyes, and expect a sappy love look. Oh, and I keep to myself all week before I make plans for only the weekends. That's about it. Now, do you realize that by accepting invitations by these guys, knowing that you don't have genuine reason to go out with them, you're leading them on and using them? COME ON, Paper. Do you honestly think people of the opposite sex meet on FB or MS, for purposes of being only friends? You know better. You knew exactly what that meeting was about. Like the guy who's house she went up too before running off to you know who? Paper... seriously... LEAVE MEN ALONE FOR A WHILE. Please. You'll be better off for it.
Star Gazer Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 I thought it was about making friends. Okay, Paper. Whatever you say. I still maintain that you knew better. Until you're honest with yourself AND to the people on LS, you'll never find the answers you claim to be looking for.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 25, 2009 Author Posted May 25, 2009 Do you know how many "dates" you've had over the past month or so? YOU yourself called them dates. That's what I'm referring to. Also, you accepted the last guy's request for a second DATE because you didn't want to disappoint him. You said you'll wait until the day itself gets closer before you make up your mind. Now you're the one keeping someone else on a string. Unless you know for a FACT that the guy you're hanging out with has no sexual or romantic intentions (i.e., he's gay, he's married, he's your brother, etc.), stop seeing men for a while. Period. Figure out how to love - nay, LIKE! - yourself first. SG, I know I'm a walking contradiction. But I hate staying home all the time. I just want to go out,drink and just forget everything. I'm sorry to string the guy along, but I didn't know how to turn him down. I really just want to be friends with him, considering I don't even want to call him at all.
tkgirl Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 Never thought about it really. I thought it was a hangout to be honest. I really did. I don't like calling people I meet for the first time dates, it's stupid and rushing things. That's why I always call them hang outs or " meetings". God, I feel stupid. So they want dates? Eh.... but it's social networking. I thought it was about making friends. don't feel stupid! the first time you meet with someone "face to face" it should be just "meeting" and "hanging out" etc...you know, casual! If they ask you to go out again, and you accept, then it's a date... IMHO.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 25, 2009 Author Posted May 25, 2009 I admit I was wrong. I knew what I was doing " physically" with artist guy, but I refused to accept the truth behind it. I find I get along better with men ( even though I might string them along ) as opposed to getting along with females. I'm very picky about who I choose to keep by my side. My entire social circle consists of 4 close friends, and when they introduce me to their other friends, I play nice. But then I just shrug it out because I know i'll forget them after they're out of my sight.
Star Gazer Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 SG, I know I'm a walking contradiction. A walking contradiction would be someone who dresses like an Amish woman, but is a wild freak in bed. You, on the other hand, Paper... have no clue what you are, what you want, what you need, how to love yourself, how to have a healthy relationship with anyone. But I hate staying home all the time. I just want to go out,drink and just forget everything. You don't have to stay at home like a hermit just because you're not dating for a while. I'm sorry to string the guy along, but I didn't know how to turn him down. I really just want to be friends with him, considering I don't even want to call him at all. Don't be sorry to me, be sorry to the poor sod you're leading on. You're using these guys to boost your ego! But then again, why do you want to be friends with someone you don't even want to talk to???
Star Gazer Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 I'm very picky about who I choose to keep by my side. Obviously not....... otherwise Artist Guy wouldn't have been an issue.
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