carhill Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 Heal from your breakup. You'll never know where you stand with Jen, even when you're old, gray and married. It's just the way it is. You have to believe in yourself and your truth. That's the finite.
Author simon0707 Posted June 3, 2009 Author Posted June 3, 2009 Saw her yesterday. Went to the bowling alley with a bunch of friends. At one point, I said "I'm gona go grab a bite to eat at the burger place next door" and she was like "I'm hungry too, I'll come with you!" and just as she said that, my friend was also like "Yeah I'll come too, I'm starving" and then she ended up not coming, only me and my guy friend went. But she spent a lot of time talking with him. Trying to make me jealous?
lora22 Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 Saw her yesterday. Went to the bowling alley with a bunch of friends. At one point, I said "I'm gona go grab a bite to eat at the burger place next door" and she was like "I'm hungry too, I'll come with you!" and just as she said that, my friend was also like "Yeah I'll come too, I'm starving" and then she ended up not coming, only me and my guy friend went. But she spent a lot of time talking with him. Trying to make me jealous? With the info you gave, I'm not sure why you would think that she was trying to make you jealous? I don't think you should be focusing on whether or not she's playing games, because it seems pretty straightforward to me! Relax! She definitely likes you as a friend, and maybe more! What I read was "She invited herself to come get a burger with me, but when my friend said he wanted to come to, she decided not to come after all." Who cares if she talked to your friend a lot? You said she had tons of friends, was very outgoing, friendly/flirty, etc. So probably that's why she has so many friends, because she talks to people. Are you and your gf OVER over? No contact, or talking, or what? What does Jen know about this situation? Sorry, unless "her" is referring to your gf/exgf??
Author simon0707 Posted June 3, 2009 Author Posted June 3, 2009 With the info you gave, I'm not sure why you would think that she was trying to make you jealous? Well, 'cause she was talking to my friend who's also single more than she was talking to me. What I read was "She invited herself to come get a burger with me, but when my friend said he wanted to come to, she decided not to come after all." Yeah, she was gona come but when my friend said he's join us she changed her mind. I don't know if she wanted to spend time alone with me or whatnot, but if that's what she wanted to do, why was she talking with him at the bowling alley and not to me? Are you and your gf OVER over? No contact, or talking, or what? What does Jen know about this situation? Yes, we're over. Very little contact. Jen knows that we broke up, but not much more. We haven't really had a chance to talk about it.
lora22 Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 Well, 'cause she was talking to my friend who's also single more than she was talking to me. Yeah, so? I don't know if she wanted to spend time alone with me or whatnot, but if that's what she wanted to do, why was she talking with him at the bowling alley and not to me? Possibly because she's a friendly girl?
Author simon0707 Posted June 4, 2009 Author Posted June 4, 2009 I don't know, maybe I'm reading too much into it. It's just that I'm pretty sure that my other friend likes her, so it is a tricky situation. He's vying for her attention, and I'm playing it cool and not giving her much attention.
lora22 Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 I don't know, maybe I'm reading too much into it. It's just that I'm pretty sure that my other friend likes her, so it is a tricky situation. He's vying for her attention, and I'm playing it cool and not giving her much attention. From what you said it definitely sounded to me like you are reading too much into it. And to be honest - if you think your friend likes her, then why are you accusing HER of trying to make YOU jealous? And I guess added to that, how good of a friend is this guy? Maybe your friend need to have a chat about this. Honestly, I don't know where you're at emotionally and developmentally, but chances are you're not ready for a relationship right now. I think you're on what they call the "rebound.":) Don't stress about it so much!
Author simon0707 Posted June 7, 2009 Author Posted June 7, 2009 We're gona be going away on a roadtrip together with a bunch of friends in a couple of weeks. I'm planning on doing this, please tell me if you think it's a good idea. I'm gona try to get her alone on the beach or something, and I'm just gona be like "Man, beach, moon, waves. If this were a hollywood movie, this is the part when we'd kiss...but unfortunately for you, there are no cameras" and she'd maybe be like "why?" and then I'll be like "Well, 'cause I'm an awesome kisser, DUH!". What do you think? Also, my friend does kinda like her, so I don't know what to do. She does talk to him more than she talks to me, mainly cause I don't give her the attention she craves and he does. What do I do? Thanks.
MissViolet Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 So you broke up with your gf so you could pursue a relationship with Jen? I guess I should commend you for being honest. I think you're reading too much into things...go with the flow and see where this road trip takes you. Don't be too eager to please anybody, take your time, no need to scheme to get her alone, and just be yourself.
Author simon0707 Posted June 7, 2009 Author Posted June 7, 2009 So you broke up with your gf so you could pursue a relationship with Jen? No. My relationship with my ex was already going south, long before I even met Jen. Do you think it's a good idea to try to kiss her in the way I mentioned?
lora22 Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 Do you think it's a good idea to try to kiss her in the way I mentioned? No. It's so contrived.
Author simon0707 Posted June 7, 2009 Author Posted June 7, 2009 But the thing is, she's my good friend's sister. What if she turns me down? If she was any other girl, I would kiss her. But she always hangs out with my group of friends, so I can't just go for it, that's why I wana see what she says to the above scenario and go from there. If I just go for it and kiss her, she might be caught offguard and be weirded out. That's why I wana do what I said above and see what she says, maybe I can get a hint on whether she wants to kiss or not?
lora22 Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 Your reasons for contriving a situation and dialogue to kiss this girl don't matter. It's still contrived. You want to do this to get a "hint" about whether she would kiss you or likes you or whatever? Looking for "hints" by reading body language and so on is what you should do, and it's what you would be doing in this situation, so you don't need to be so manipulative about it. Second, what happened to bros before hos?
Author simon0707 Posted June 7, 2009 Author Posted June 7, 2009 That's the thing though, she flirts with everyone. She touches a lot of guys in a flirty way, so I don't know. How can you tell with girls like her? Body language, you mean as in hugs and touching and whatnot? Well, we do hug and kiss on the cheeks. But again, she does that with lots of guys, so I have no way of knowing with her. Second, what happened to bros before hos? He just got out of a 5 year relationship and just wants to hook up with her. He's not even over his ex yet.
lora22 Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 If she flirts with everyone, why would her flirting with you after you give her that line be any different? Odd, your buddy's situation sounds vaguely familiar....
Author simon0707 Posted June 8, 2009 Author Posted June 8, 2009 If she flirts with everyone, why would her flirting with you after you give her that line be any different? Because I don't flirt with everyone. I flirt with very few people. You still haven't told me how to differentiate her being flirty with everyone and her hanging around me. And the diff. is that my friend ISN'T over his ex. They still see each other and talk daily.
lora22 Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 ? I don't get what you're asking. There isn't a difference between her flirting with you and her flirting with everyone else. She flirts! So the only way you're going to find out if she's into you is to stop ignoring her and make a DECISIVE move (like skipping the line to get a hint from her, and just go for it, or asking her on a date or something).
Author simon0707 Posted June 8, 2009 Author Posted June 8, 2009 Ok, I understand what you're saying. But how would I live with the embarassement of getting rejected when she hangs out with all my group of friends on a weekly basis? If she was any other girl, it wouldn't matter, but she's not.
Author simon0707 Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 He asked her out. Apparently, they made a bet about the NBA finals, and he said he'd take her to a show or something. She said yeah apparently. It's like the whole world is against me.
Author simon0707 Posted June 21, 2009 Author Posted June 21, 2009 I know I'm really annoying with all my posts, and no one has to answer if you don't want, writing here is just a way for me to feel like someone else knows about my issues. Yesterday we were at a club for a friend's music show, and I'm not really a dancer, so I was talking to my buddy and I had to leave before other people cause I worked really early the next morning. At one point she was just like: "Come dance!" and I was just like "I have to go, I'll see you later". Do you think she thinks I'm like super lame now for not dancing?
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