colosseum Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 1 week ago, she and I had a 6hr date with a wonderful kiss to end it--possibly the best legitimate date i've had. we're on summer break and we decided to stay in touch. i txted her yesterday asking if i can call her that night. she said "sure :)". So i called her later that night and left a message (first time since my thank-you call from the date the day after--so first in a week: too long?) asked her to call me back, but b/c i was at a family friend's party that if i didn't get in touch with her yesterday i'd call her today again. i also fcebked her just sayin hope u had a good night. i just called her again today, and it rang 2x and went straight to voicemail (as in, she saw it and sent it to voicemail). left a message, asking her to call me back when she gets the time. she has a summer job so she could be busy, but on a sunday afternoon? i have to be patient...right? or is this a lost cause? i should just wait now, right? argh, i feel like i'm losing/i've lost her. she's so sweet though i dont want to.
Mahatma Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 Eh.... could be either way. You may have waited too long, and then spent too much time contacting her. You only need to make ONE form of contact also.
Author colosseum Posted May 24, 2009 Author Posted May 24, 2009 I should wait though, huh? When can I call again to see?
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 Hrm. You've left her TWO voicemails and a facebook message? I don't know that I'd be anxious to call her anytime soon if she can't be polite enough to return a call after two freaking voicemails. But I guess if you're really determined, I would call her no sooner than Tuesday. But if that one goes to VM, I wouldn't even bother leaving one. Seriously - how can a girl be "so sweet," and yet impolite?
ruggy Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 Hmm, two VMs and a FB message. May have made you look a bit desperate. You should never want to project that at any time during the relationship.
Author colosseum Posted May 25, 2009 Author Posted May 25, 2009 Yeah...in retrospect I thought that too. Bleh. But she called me back and we talked and it was good...so we'll see... [edit] Thanks for all the help though, folks.
cbreitel Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 You texted her for permission, left her two voicemails and one FB msg. Terrible. Just terrible. You look both desperate AND wimpy at the same time. Why the hell do you need to text someone for permission to call her later? Do you text your friends to ask for permission to call them? Obviously not. Then why do you need permission to call her? If she's still interested, you'll be very lucky. If you go out with her again, man up for pete's sake.
Bejita463 Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 Do you text your friends to ask for permission to call them? Obviously not. Actually, sometimes I do as a courtesy. That doesn't mean I am asking for permission.
Island Girl Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 You texted her for permission, left her two voicemails and one FB msg. Terrible. Just terrible. You look both desperate AND wimpy at the same time. Why the hell do you need to text someone for permission to call her later? Do you text your friends to ask for permission to call them? Obviously not. Then why do you need permission to call her? If she's still interested, you'll be very lucky. If you go out with her again, man up for pete's sake. I second ALL of this and I'd also add that you should REMOVE TEXT from your ways of contact in your dating life. It can save you a lot of wondering misinterpreting (on both parts) etc. Reserve texting for when you are IN a relationship already -- and in one for a while. Until then MAN UP and make phone calls.
lora22 Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 I second ALL of this and I'd also add that you should REMOVE TEXT from your ways of contact in your dating life. It can save you a lot of wondering misinterpreting (on both parts) etc. Reserve texting for when you are IN a relationship already -- and in one for a while. Until then MAN UP and make phone calls. X3!! It's good that you actually did call her after you texted her; however I (and many other girls I know) generally don't like when new guys text them in place of a phone call - it's lazy and cowardly, and it sets the tone for the entire relationship. As others pointed out, and you acknowledged, it looks desperate to contact her so often. When you're starting a new relationship/casually dating, if you feel the need to keep in touch, but aren't sure how the other person feels, facebooking can be great - for example, if you see a youtube video, onion article, whatever, that reminds you of something you two talked about on your date, or that she said she was interested in, or is a huge piece of pop culture that she hasn't seen - send it to her with a cute note or witty commentary. Doing this once in awhile is cute and sweet, not desperate or clingy. Second, in her defense, she may not have ignored your call, she may not have had service, in which case it would ring an odd number of times before going to vmail; if she did ignore you, maybe she was busy. Goodl uck!
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