Trialbyfire Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 And he's totally oblivious to the fact that he's getting thoroughly slaughtered by PB. I'm trying not to fall head over heals here.It always stuns me how oblivious he is. It's like a DVD that keeps repeating the same scene/agenda, over and over again. Haha...not surprising. She's killing him.
GorillaTheater Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 Apparently she feels her man is that fragile, as those are her own words. She knowingly and purposely acted in a way to cause "conflicting thoughts to go through his head" Why? You were right the other day wrt the foreclosure market (sorry TBF), and I spoke up because I saw your point. But in this thread the only point is the one above your hairline. She's killing you, man. Flee while you still can.
Trialbyfire Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 We'll have to agree to disagree on the foreclosure market thread, GT. I think in this thread, you get a good feel of that particular member and his "stories". He's got a lot of them, of which most remind me of "A Misogynists Guide to Jacob's Fables".
calazhage Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 Ok, my bad. Excellent way to plan a vacation. But I guarantee the woman I am taking on vacation would not need to an start internet thread about it. TBF tell us more about your imaginary fiancee..
Author prettybaby Posted May 28, 2009 Author Posted May 28, 2009 Apparently she feels her man is that fragile, as those are her own words. Don't twist my words. I didn't say my man is "that fragile". I said: "the male ego is a fragile thing". And clearly, it is. And so is yours, since you won't even tolerate a woman who makes more than you and who is willing to pay for her trip. Your attitude only proves I was right in trying to find the best solution to my initial (and I freely admit) clumsy approach. I care about my guy, I don't want to hurt his feelings or make decisions we don't both agree with. Are you telling me that's wrong too now? Are you telling me I'm not supposed to be considerate? You just went through saying that your ex was inconsiderate and that she wouldn't change her plans even though you told her you didn't like her idea; to the point where you even ended up not going with her at all. And now you resent her so bad that you feel the need to whine about her in a thread about a relationship that doesn't even closely resemble yours. So WHAT IS IT, calazhage?! You're coming up with all these scenarios as if we had not even started talking yet about going on a trip together. And you keep getting stuck on quotes from my original post from 5 days ago, like a broken record. Guess what: 90% of the planning is done, so your scenarios can go straight to the bin because they're useless at this point. There was an initial misunderstanding, some hesitation on my part, perhaps you could even call it a bad approach at first. So what, shoot me. This is the very first thing we're planning and paying together as a couple, so excuse me if we both stumble a bit through it at first. I think everybody on this board will agree that new relationships that grow towards long term come with many headaches. You take 2 individuals with their own personalities and habits and differences, and you tell me it will always go perfect from the start, without either of the two needing to figure out compromises and agreements. I mean, seriously calazhage, get real.
calazhage Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 We are friends and she offered to take me on a free cruise. More or less I did not want to leave my business for 2 and a half weeks. No resentment whatsoever. I am just pointing out how my vacation idea was better, but she already booked. The trip was 100% about her and for her. Her dream to go there, not mine. She just wanted my company. Turns out I was right. The other female poster picked up on what I did.. Your boyfriend seems like a doormat. He might not be, but that's how you presented him. Meek, just smiles and nods, says things are expensive but just wants to make you happy, and leaves ALL the decisions up to you. He will never be what most women want. A take charge man. However if you are satisfied that is all that matters. What would most females prefer? A or B? A. Honey, be ready at 8 I have something special planned. Or B (Your man) B. What should we do tonight? Where would you like to go? It's kind of expensive. Yes, it is in my budget, we can do that. HMMM but it is expensive for me.. Ok i will go because i want you to be happy.
Author prettybaby Posted May 29, 2009 Author Posted May 29, 2009 Why are you still going on about this? No really, why? I originally started this thread because I needed some advise on how to approach him about our vacation budget. Some advice was good, some not so much, some completely off topic which I couldn't do anything with. And a few days later, we found a good compromise and are now finishing up the last few details of our trip. Now why on Earth are you still going on about my boyfriend's personality, and whether he is or isn't what the stereotypical woman in your head would want? What do I care how you personally imagine what women want? What do I care how you would personally rather spend your vacation? What do I care about your ex girlfriend acting like an inconsiderate brat? Really, what does any of the ish you're throwing at me constantly have anything to do with my original question on how to talk to my boyfriend? Nothing. So why are you still sitting here typing to me about all that unrelated stuff, when at the end of the day, it obviously just boils down to you venting about your own personal experiences and frustrations.
Trialbyfire Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 My advice to you, prettybaby, is to self-mutilate, since you're blatantly harming a fragile man with your need to be reasonable and compromise. Resolution of issues is far less meaningful, than bowing to your man and acting like poo scrapings on the bottom of his shoe. Self-respect and having a brain are way over-inflated. Be simpering, curl up and let your man, you know the man who you've stated is a doormat, live up to his potential of being a petty despot and dictator.[sarcasm over]
calazhage Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 Your entire approach is simply annoying. Example.. I am at the grocery store with a girl I was dating. It was one of those higher end grocery stores. We came across a package of shrimp for $9. 6 medium shrimp and some sauce. I said "That's expensive" Now what if she then used her little mind to try and figure out my budget. Or said something like "I'll pay for it then". Or then went on and on about how she makes more than me and doesn't want to eat crappy food forever!!! All because I made a comment. You do not know his budget. He just said that's expensive. Big deal. Could I afford the shrimp? Of course. Would I spend $9 for 6? No. Could be the exact same with him. Maybe he felt it would be a waste of money. I know in your little girl mind that automatically equals "He can't afford it" and it is time for you to step up and pay for it, but men often times have other more logical and important priorities than to get ripped off in fancy hotels.
donnamaybe Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 Why are you still going on about this? No really, why? . I could tell you why, but I'd probably get modified.
Author prettybaby Posted May 29, 2009 Author Posted May 29, 2009 Right, I'm an irresponsible child who runs a business and owns 3 properties. Go on, please. You're quite entertaining.
Star Gazer Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 Calazhage, you really need to drop this. You're digging yourself a hole you'll never be able to get out of.
donnamaybe Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 Your entire approach is simply annoying. Now THIS is total irony at its finest!!!
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